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Cat Forum / Cat Anecdotes / March 2006my grandma (ot)
My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting weaker and weaker, and she is 94, and my dad says it doesn't look good. My grandma hates being dependent on everyone and being almost blind and I know she is not having a good time of it any more. How supremely selfish of me would it be for me to tell her not to die because I dont' want to be sad, when if it is her time I have to let her go without anger or regret. She has raised me to 28+ years, and I have other friends now to support me, I'm not dependent on just her any more. I am out here in Halifax and she is 1000 miles away. I phoned and my mom held up the phone so I could talk to her. She is very weak, she could only listen for about 2 minutes. 2 minutes to try to say thank you and i'll be okay to the person who guided me through a hard childhood and adolescence. My mom and dad are with her. my mom has been pretty good to her for the past ten years, for all they fought before hand, but it is also hard, considering what Grandma and I shared without Mom's involvement (or sometimes because my mom was being the problem) Could I get some purrs for my grandma? Tyche is on my lap right now, purring away. She knows I am sad. --Fil I am sending the biggest PURRS I can you should hear it all the way from Florida they are loud enough to shake the house for her > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil Purrs and prayers for your grandmom. Lily & her mama  SignatureIrulan from the stars we come to the stars we return from now until the end of time > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil Many, many purrs for your grandma. My grandmother was one of the most important persons in my life, she practically reared me. You'll probably have to let her go, I'm sorry, I remember well how it feels. Tweed Lots of purrs for your grandma, Enfilade, and especially for you during this time. hugs, Christine > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and > is now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > Tyche is on my lap right now, purring away. She knows I am sad. {{{{{{{{Fil}}}}}}}} Purrs for your grandma, hugs for you. SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy and Bagheera) Cats leave pawprints on your heart. http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and > is now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > > --Fil Purrs for your grandma and for you, too. You're very lucky to have had her this long. My grandparents died when I was 16 and I never got to see them often (military brat). And I never got to tell them I loved them, either. Hope you did when you talked to her. Jill > Hope you did when you talked to her. Always. I wrote her a letter every week, phoned her every week, saw her at Yuletime. --Fil >> Hope you did when you talked to her. > > Always. I wrote her a letter every week, phoned her every week, saw > her at Yuletime. being a grandmother and also a great grandmother, I feel the least stress when I know they are all in their own homes and not out traveling somewhere. Purrs for peace for all of you. MLB Been there. Purrs for you and your family. Is there absolutely no way to go see your grandma? PatM > Been there. Purrs for you and your family. > Is there absolutely no way to go see your grandma? > > PatM 1. If I go, mom and dad have to leave her alone for 5 hours or more to come get me at the airport. 2. I have no money--I'm going on a work trip to England in six days and it's cleaned out my bank account completely. I'm eating out of cans because I have no money to go out and buy fresh food. (When I get back from England I'll have scholarship payment so I'll be ok then...) 3. Mom and Dad seem to not want me to come home. I didn't go home in the ten days my other grandmother was dying either, but she had 7 other grandkids and 4 sons...and I didn't go home for the funeral. Again, no money and that sense from my family that I wasn't needed/wanted. but also, Grandma Cora always keeps telling me not to go to Ontario to visit because she worries about me on the airplane. Knowing I am flying has triggered depressions in her before, and at this point, it might kill her...if I did try, I would have to not tell her until I arrived, and I have no money and I am dependent on my parents to come get me at the airport because buses dont' go to our remote area and... I think it would be harder on Grandma now to put her at the center of a war to try to make my parents help me come to see her. They are taking care of her. I got to talk to her on the phone. Gods, I don't know. This is the woman I love more than anyone else in the world, and yet somehow it doesn't feel right to try to go home (particularly if she dies on my way home or whatever...and my coming just gives mom and dad more stress and takes them away from caring for grandma.) I don't know what she would want me to do. --Fil > > Been there. Purrs for you and your family. > > Is there absolutely no way to go see your grandma? > > > > PatM Ok, update. Apparently my grandma has made it crystal clear to the nurses etc that she does not want me coming home from Halifax to see her in this state. I want to do what is best for her. If she would rather not "Disturb" me then I will respect that wish and continue to talk to her via phone. --Mary > but also, Grandma Cora always keeps telling me not to go to Ontario to > visit because she worries about me on the airplane. Knowing I am > flying has triggered depressions in her before, and at this point, it > might kill her...if I did try, I would have to not tell her until I > arrived, and I have no money and I am dependent on my parents to come > get me at the airport because buses dont' go to our remote area and... I tell you what, that alone means you are doing the right thing. There is no point in putting stress on her in this condition. I hope you can talk to her again though, even if it is only 2 minutes. But don't make her worry. Lord knows no matter what, they DO, almost obsessively. If something went wrong on the shushing end and she found out, it would definitely not make her any more peaceful worrying about you. ((((HUGS))))) > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting > weaker and weaker, and she is 94, and my dad says it doesn't look good. Many purrs coming to you from here - and just as many for your Grandma. Deb. Signaturehttp://www.scientific-art.com "He looked a fierce and quarrelsome cat, but claw he never would; He only bit the ones he loved, because they tasted good." S. Greenfield > My grandma is in the hospital. Plenty of purrs for you both, and all others who care for her. Gordon & the FF Purrs times three for your wonderful grandmother and for you. My prayers and thoughts are with you and she as well. SignatureCharleen Mr. Pumpkin Aggie Marble Victor Velcro > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil Purrs for Gramdma to have as easy a time over whatever her future holds as possible. And purrs for you. I know you aren't "done" with her yet, but then again you never will be really. So purrs and prayers for peace and acceptance and wonderful memories. She will always be a part of who you are. I feel my Grandmother with me, and remember the blessing of the time I had her often. She is in my dreams and in my life. Even though she died almost fifty years ago. Jo > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil Purrs for your Grandma and for you. Your sweet post brought me to tears and I feel so bad for you that you cannot go to her. > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting > weaker and weaker, and she is 94, and my dad says it doesn't look good. Big purrs and peaceful thoughts to you both. Susan M Otis and Chester > Could I get some purrs for my grandma? > > Tyche is on my lap right now, purring away. She knows I am sad. Lots of purrs both for your Grandma, for you and your family. SignatureMarina, Miranda and Caliban. In loving memory of Frank and Nikki. marina (dot) kurten (at) iki (dot) fi Stories and pics at http://koti.welho.com/mkurten/ Pics at http://uk.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/frankiennikki/ and http://community.webshots.com/user/frankiennikki > Could I get some purrs for my grandma? Furballs in full purring mode for your grandma Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs > Could I get some purrs for my grandma? Lots of purrs for grandma. SignatureVictor M. Martinez Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM) Send your spam here: uce@ftc.gov Email me here: pistorLITTER@BOXaustin.rr.com {{{{{{{{{{Fil}}}}}}}}}} Purrs on the way. SignatureHugs, CatNipped See all my masters at: http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/CatNipped/ > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil >My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is >now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > >--Fil {{{{Fil}}}}} You got purrs for your grandma on the way. Ginger-lyn Home Pages: http://www.moonsummer.com http://www.angelfire.com/folk/glsummer (homepage & cats) http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~summer/index.htm (genealogy) http://www.movieanimals.bravehost.com/ (The Violence Against Animals in Movies Website) Purrs on the way for your grandmother. Ann Signatureread Sam's blog at http://kittens-3.blogspot.com/ see pictures of Sam at http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/ann791/my_photos > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil Purrs for your grandmother and for you. How was her day today? How are you? > Could I get some purrs for my grandma? Purrs for you and your grandmother. I just want to say, you don't have to do anything, when it comes to emotions. You can't make yourself not be angry, or scared, or not have regrets. It's probably a good idea to recognize those emotions within yourself. That doesn't necessarily mean you should share them with her (that is up to you to decide), but please don't beat yourself up for caring about her and wanting her in your life just a little longer. Signaturemonique, who spoils Oscar unmercifully pictures: http://www.bounceswoosh.org/rpca > Could I get some purrs for my grandma? > > Tyche is on my lap right now, purring away. She knows I am sad. > > --Fil Many, many purrs and prayers. Helen M > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil Big purrs from here for your grandma and for you. SignatureSam, closely supervised by Mistletoe > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil We are sending lots and lots of purrs and very gentle hugs for your grandma and also hugs for you, Fil, Polonca and Soncek Purring for your Grandma Enfilade. Huggs for you. i am sad for you ....(((((enfilade)))))) > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil Many purrs for you, your grandma and your whole family. I have no idea what it's like because all 4 of my grandparents were dead by the time I was 11. I don't really remember them all that well :-( At least you'll have some good memories. -- Britta > My grandma is in the hospital. She was having trouble breathing and is > now on oxygen and pills to get fluid out of her lungs. She is getting [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > --Fil
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