I don't think so... sometimes I just have no time to reply to every post.

Jill

At this point, I have 1,197 unread anecdotes.  I have 790 health &
behavior unread.  I have 117 a.cats unread and 160 community.
My eyes get tired of reading, so I do it in short segments.  Either the
days art getting shorter, or my eyes are wearing out.

Perhaps it is time for another Mommy story  -- I'll stop everything for
one of those.

Purrs that all is well for you and yours.   MLB

I certainly haven't noticed any problem posts from you.  I am very busy
nowadays, and usually don't read all posts.  I respond to very few of those
I do read - mostly just to indicate purrs.  Please don't leave.

Joy

I don't think so.  Like many others, I just don't have the time to
read everything, or respond to everything I read.  Pictures, in
particular, I tend to save for later, and sometimes I actually get to
them, and sometimes I don't.  Same with longer posts.  Sometimes I
save more difficult posts so that I can craft just the right response,
and then suddenly it's two weeks later and I never did post ... but I
did think about the person.

Gosh, you are as bad as I am.  When I don't hear from friends and family, I
start to think they don't love me anymore.  We won't get into how personally
I take it when I lose a tax client. Dying isn't a good enough excuse.

You are fine.  We still love you.

Personally not posting much as, I have been having trouble breathing for
weeks.  Can't shake this cold or pneumonia or whatever it is.

Kayla is running us ragged.  She is the sweetest, happiest dog I've ever
known but she is still a four month old border collie.

We have painters in the house.  I'm thrilled, happy, delighted to be getting
my house painted but the place is a disaster area.

I need a nap.

Jo

"CatNipped" <lcrews@houston.rr.com> wrote in message
news:46pgk8Fcglm9U1@individual.net...

sure

Like everyone else, I have turned into more a lurker than a participator.
Not because I wanted to, but because I have to. I just can't keep up right
now and only read the occasional message. Keeping up with whole long
meandering threads is now impossible, so I rarely bother reading past the
first message in a thread, and reply even less (especially since replying at
work has now become a real PITA)

Not getting responses, or many responses, to your messages is a common
problem that pretty much every 'regular' has worried about at some point or
another. What I think it means in the end is that instead of being 'new'
where everyone notices you and encourages you to write more, you've become a
'regular' and whilst people still read what you wrote, feel no compulsion to
reply just so as to make you feel welcome - now that you are a 'regular'
they'll only reply if they feel that they actually have something to *say*
because their time is limited. And trust me, if you *had* hurt anyone's
feelings, your pants would already be on fire (and would have *lots* of
responses - all angry).

And yes, another "With Mommy" anecdote would go down a treat right now.

Yowie

I read most posts, skip over some. Sometimes I reply, especially when it's a
request for purrs and prayers, often I don't. I haven't read anything from
you lately, Lori, that could be called offensive, I just don't reply if I
don't think it's necessary. So, don't worry about it, I get very lazy
sometimes <grin>.
Lily & her mama

not me you haven't!!  i've just had a bad ful/sinus infection over the last
week + fluey kids so haven't had much energy to do more than read! (Oh, but
i have been laughing at the little spat in rpch+b....you go girl!!)

I haven't been offended by anything, but read most messages posted to
the group without posting a reply.

I was wondering yesterday where you'd been.  Hadn't seen posts from you
in a while.

SFAIK, you've done nothing wrong.  Lots of us have just been really
busy.  I don't post replies to nearly the number of posts I used to --
just don't have the time (big projects at works, etc.). I do read most
of them though.

{{Catnipped}}

Not that I know of!

purrs from Memphis and Phoenix!

sandra

I often feel the same way, and I tend to come to the same conclusions
when my posts don't get a lot of responses. I start assuming that most
of the group has me killfiled. But in reality, I think most people read
far more than they post. (And when you think about it, it's good that
it's like that. Can you imagine if everyone replied to every post? GAAKK!
I would have to leave the group!) When it counts, I've noticed that
people do respond (eg, my recent post about not getting a job). But I
think posts like stories or commentary don't always require a response.
I often just read and enjoy them, without a reply.

To me, you always seem to be in the middle of a lot of lively, ongoing
discussions, so your posts must be getting responses! So maybe, just
over the past few days, people haven't had the time or energy to reply
very much. I'm sure it's not personal! Not from me, anyway.

Joyce

Speaking just for myself, RL is getting in the way & I just don't have
the time to respond & interact as I'd like. So it's nothing personal.
Love Sammy's mpeg, btw :)  She sure is heavy on them velvet paws!

I'm afraid stories of Claudius' ascension to maturity and rule, mainly
at the moment he's concentrating on altering the environment to his
taste by removing wallpaper and separating carpet from its lining, are
having to go by the board :(

But I hope to catch up in a month or two & send purrs, woofs & greetings
to old e-friends in the meantime.

Cheers
Gordon, Bandit, Snowball, Claudius & Raki

You haven't offended anyone, most people are just too busy these days. My
excuse sometimes is, I can't reach the keyboard due to a cat on my lap, then
I forget to reply later.

  You are not the first person who says that 'no response = ignored'. It
is rubbish.  I rarely post, merely read a lot here.  To read anything
into my silence is just wrong, and I am sure that applies to a lot of
people.  All NGs tend to have a lot of lurkers who never post.

  I believe you should only assume something is wrong when people *say*
so: absence of replies means nothing.  For example, I am still pretty
annoyed sixteen months later, by the post that said [summarised]: "Is
not our country, the USA, wonderful, because we are better than other
countries at everything".  But I did not ignore it: I took the trouble
to post about it.

I know I just cannot respond much lately. No TIME. Trying to get better, but
just enough time to read mostly.

I can't speak for others, but you certainly haven't said anything that has
offended *me* and I always read your posts without fail and enjoy them.
Now I am back at work I am finding that time is a real problem for me. I
cannot always even respond to purr requests by replying so instead I always
sit here and *think* them, and also light candles as appropriate.
I have 1018 unread posts on the group as of now.

I suspect a lot of people have the same difficulty as me.  Limited time to
respond on a group that has a fair amount of daily traffic and maybe just
replying to emergency posts?
Please have a little more confidence in yourself.  I love to read your
posts, but they mainly don't need a reply whereas a kitty illness post, or
another bad happening, does.
Myself, if I post and get no replies it doesn't bother me.  I know a lot
will read it - and maybe they don't have anything to say about it, that's
fine with me.  I don't assume that no-one is replying because I've offended
them, more that they didn't see the need to.
Just keep posting, Lori, why does it matter how many replies you get?  Why
do you equate the lack of replies with you being *bad*, why don't you just
think how many are reading and enjoying and just have no time to post an
appreciation?  Also ask yourself why you need it.

Tweed

I doubt it, CN.  Sometimes, we all just get busy with "Real Life".
Sometimes we read posts, laugh or cry, but don't feel a need to
respond.  And I think all of us at one time or another have felt the
same way, myself included!  I think it's just a normal thing that
happens on and off on the group, so I wouldn't worry about it.

Ginger-lyn

Home Pages:
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 http://www.angelfire.com/folk/glsummer (homepage & cats)
 http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~summer/index.htm (genealogy)
 http://www.movieanimals.bravehost.com/ (The Violence Against
                        Animals in Movies Website)

You've done nothing wrong, CN, it's just that there are so many posts
and so little time to read them (and even less time to post replies). I
am always behind and I have lots of pics marked so I can have a look at
them later when I have a bit more time (even though now I have cable and
they load much quicker than they did when I was on dial-up).
Best wishes,
Polonca and Soncek

I know I'm new here, but I have to say that in most newsgroups I read,
being ignored definitely does not mean you are not wanted.  Being openly
flamed with your intelligence, cleanliness, and ancestry insulted means
you are not wanted.  

Being ignored just means nobody was particularly moved to respond.  
Nothing more.  

One needs a thicker skin than that to survive usenet, IMO/IME.

Chak

I have the same excuse for not responding much as everyone else seems to
have - limited time. I'm having phototherapy for my scleroderma
(thickened skin) again, and though the treatment is quite nice - a
ten-minute bath first, then a gradually increased time in the UV light
cabinet - it takes a lot of time (three times a week), and then I still
have to finish my assignments at work, so I often work until late. Not
sure the phototherapy is working, though, Rather than go away, the
scleroderma has spread down along my back, and my neck is stiffer than
ever. I can only hope that the thickening of tissue doesn't spread into
any internal organs. There are other health issues too. I used to be
able to shrug them all off with a laugh, but I seem to have lost my
sense of humour sometime last year. Feeling overwhelmed.

Heh. I doubt that very much... you would have heard all about it ;) I
lurk here, and post occasionally, but this group is just too active to
keep up with... I go for days sometimes without getting in a look-see,
and by then it's too late to reply to anything.... so don't worry about
it.

Cheers
Cathy(xyz)