So here's a question for y'all:
DH is thinking a kitten (i.e. no more than a few months old) would have
a better chance of bonding with Mithu (who is 7, but young at heart)
than an older (i.e. 1-3 years old) cat.
I'm thinking that an older cat would have a more established
personality and we might know better up front is s/he is a good match.
OTOH, a kitten probably is more adaptable.
Any thoughts out there?
Thanks again
Caroline S.
Helen Miles - 07 Feb 2006 21:20 GMT
> I'm thinking that an older cat would have a more established
> personality and we might know better up front is s/he is a good match.
> OTOH, a kitten probably is more adaptable.
> Any thoughts out there?
> Thanks again
> Caroline S.///
I would go for a kitten-cat about 8-10 months old. Young enough to want
to wrestle and play, old enough to not need too much babysitting. Trust
me, a kitten is a HELL of a lot of work - I had forgotten how much.
Plus, the kitten cats at the shelter get a raw deal - they're too old to
be cutsey, and too young to be *mature*.
Helen M
jmcquown - 08 Feb 2006 00:28 GMT
> So here's a question for y'all:
>
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> Thanks again
> Caroline S.
I've never had experience with this so I'm just guessing.... but perhaps
Mithu might decide to mother or father the younger cat? There will probably
be some dominance issues but that's just the way it is. Then again, a
slightly older but not older than Mithu cat would be able to assert his/her
place in the home.
Gosh, this is difficult. I've never had to deal with two cats in one home.
Only with birds. I do know older birds pick on younger birds. And I know my
cat Persia hates other cats to the point of breaking through screens to get
at them and chase them off.
Oh dear, I'm sorry I have no ideas. After all these years I'm still a
novice at being owned by a cat. But I wish you well!
Jill
Marina - 08 Feb 2006 06:04 GMT
> So here's a question for y'all:
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> OTOH, a kitten probably is more adaptable.
> Any thoughts out there?
First of all, congrats on the baby! I don't know where my attention has
been, but I've missed that completely.
Second, I'd go for a young kitten/cat. Caliban was about four months
when I adopted him, and he learned very quickly to leave Frank alone and
only play with Miranda. Frank wasn't aggressive, but he said 'No' very
clearly each time little Caliban tried to play-jump him. Still, a
slightly older cat, up to 2-3 years, might very well learn as quickly.
This wasn't much help. was it. :oP

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Enfilade - 08 Feb 2006 16:58 GMT
> > DH is thinking a kitten (i.e. no more than a few months old) would have
> > a better chance of bonding with Mithu (who is 7, but young at heart)
> > than an older (i.e. 1-3 years old) cat.
I would agree with the "young adult", 6-12 months old.
They are no longer a bittie. They don't need constant attention and
their personalities are clearly visible. Yet they are still kittenish
emotionally in many ways, and would register as "young" to Mithu, who
is then more likely to be motherly/fatherly than hostile.
We got Nocturne at 9 months and could tell that she would not be an
active or bratty cat, but that she would be affectionate. (We missed
the "cunning evil" part, but we /did/ get a calm, quiet, sedate lady
who loves us...albeit with tough love some times.)
Then we brought home Smokey and the bitties and blew our calm, quiet
household all to hell.
--Fil
Lesley - 09 Feb 2006 09:56 GMT
> We got Nocturne at 9 months and could tell that she would not be an
> active or bratty cat, but that she would be affectionate. (We missed
> the "cunning evil" part, but we /did/ get a calm, quiet, sedate lady
> who loves us...albeit with tough love some times.)
I always imagine that Nocturne got you rather than the other way
around! I can see her thinking "You'll do to provide me with food and
bed while I form the FWO and plot World domination...come here,
slaves!"
Lesley
Slave of the Fabulous Furballs
-L. - 09 Feb 2006 12:02 GMT
> So here's a question for y'all:
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> Thanks again
> Caroline S.
No way would I bring a new cat into a household where you are about to
have a new baby. You are *asking* for behavioral problems, most
notably inappropriate elimination and aggression among the cats.
Have the baby, get settled in and THEN think about getting a new cat.
I would wait a good year before adding a cat.
-L.