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Cat Forum / Cat Anecdotes / December 2005Ten days
It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. He's still the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last before I go to sleep. In bed is where I notice his absence the most. He didn't participate a lot in our everyday life otherwise. These last few years he spent mostly in bed, sleeping, with a trip to the food bowls and the litter box now and then. But when I go to bed, that is when it really hits me - there is no Frank. He always used to come to bed when he saw me going, even if he'd been sleeping in the sauna. Inside a minute, he would appear at the foot of the bed, jump up, and walk alongside me, looking me in the eye all the way, then curling around my head or on the pillow next to mine, and purring his furry little head off. He did this on our last night together, and he did this a few hours before the vet came, when we took a nap. I really considered cancelling the vet'¨s visit then, but then I forced myself to think of all the weight he had lost in such a short time, and that his body just wasn't absorbing any nutrients any longer. I know it was time, I did the right thing, and might even have done it a little bit too late, but I'm happy to think of that last nap when he lay purring by my head. Thinking selfishly, it's a relief not to have to force the medicine down his throat twice a day any more, or drag him to the vet's for poking and needles. And it's a relief no to have to be sick with worry All.Tthe. Time. This autumn has passed in a daze of continuous worry that made me feel sick every day. I won't lie, it's a relief not to have wonder all the time if Frank is in pain or not. Miranda seems to have recovered and be back to her old self. Caliban has been an absolute sweetheart all the time (with bouts of maddening hoolikittenism, of course). He's such a clown and makes me laugh all the time with his antics, or with his cuteness. All in all, we're taking one step at a time, one day at a time. And I wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me.  SignatureMarina, Miranda and Caliban. In loving memory of Frank and Nikki. marina (dot) kurten (at) iki (dot) fi Stories and pics at http://koti.welho.com/mkurten/ Pics at http://uk.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/frankiennikki/ and http://community.webshots.com/user/frankiennikki > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like > an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. > > He's still the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last > before I go to sleep. That could last for some time. It was only the other day, over 10 months since I had Pericles pts, that I realised my last thought before falling asleep and my first waking thought wasn't about him. So be prepared for a long haul. Delighted to hear that both Mir and Cal have "stepped up to the plate" though. When he's not driving me insane I find much comfort in Claws' antics too, while Bandit and Snowball are their sweet, friendly and amenable selves most of the time. Hope it keeps getting slowly & steadily easier. Purrs Gordon & the FF >> He's still the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last >> before I go to sleep. > >That could last for some time. It was only the other day, over 10 months >since I had Pericles pts, that I realised my last thought before falling >asleep and my first waking thought wasn't about him. It'll be a long time. Fin has been gone for almost exactly a year now, and every so often I still get hit with the thought 'Oh! He's gone!' and cry madly for at least 10 minutes. But we're here for you. Jane - owned and operated by Princess Rita You made the right decision. It will take a little bit of time, then all you will remember are the good times. Lily & her mama SignatureIrulan from the stars we come to the stars we return from now until the end of time > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like > an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 33 lines] > wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and > cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me. > You made the right decision. It will take a little bit of time, then all you > will remember are the good times. > Lily & her mama Many purrs. It is impossible for life to go on "like nothing happened" when someone who was such a big part of it has passed on. Slowly, over time, routine will adjust to Miranda and Caliban being all the cats there are... ...gods, I can't imagine life without a headnox, without Tyche draped over my hip, Smokey singing for his breakfast and Kumani walking across my chest. --Fil Hang in there, Marina...We're sending hugs and purrs your way.. --Kim and the Chigger Ranch Crew >It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like >an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] >wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and >cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me. >It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like >an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] >feel sick every day. I won't lie, it's a relief not to have wonder all >the time if Frank is in pain or not. It's a relief for Frank too, you can depend on it. But nobody understands what it's like better than we do. We know how much you miss him. Theresa Stinky Pictures: http://community.webshots.com/album/125591586JWEFwh My Blog: http://www.humanitas.blogspot.com Make Levees, Not War {{{{{{{{{{Marina}}}}}}}}}} Hang in there sweetie, it will take time, but it *will* get better. Just know that Frank is now young and healthy and playing with Nikki at the Bridge while they wait for you to join them. Hugs, CatNipped > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like > an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 33 lines] > wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and > cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me. > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels > like an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and > cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me. I'm afraid I still miss Grant, particularly at bed time. I think maybe I will never get over that. He was the constant in the bed. Pearl and Sugar usually come up, eventually, but no 13lb FLOOOOOMP! next to my side and they do not like to nap with me, where as Grant came up to cuddle the minute I laid down. I miss taht SOOOOO terribly. I miss a big cuddly boy cat. I guess all in all, it is good. I sometimes worried that I would "forget", but no, he will always be my woodjie boy. It must be twice as hard wtih Frank because you lived with him more than twice as long. I think about you a lot these days, knowing how hard it is. (((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))) Marina, I feel for you. I am sure Miranda and Caliban are a big comfort for you. With my only cat Rusty at 11, I am dreading the day when I will be without him. It was terrible a few years ago around Christmas when he was very sick. Even last Christmas he had problems. I am keeping a close watch on him this Christmas. Continue purrs going out to you. Winnie > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like > an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 33 lines] > wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and > cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me. > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels > like an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. {{{{{{{{Marina}}}}}}}}} Time is very strange, in the future you may not think about, Frank, for a while, then it will hit you like a slap in the face. At other times you'll just have happy memories. That's the price we pay for loving these wonderful creatures, and in the long run, it's worth it. SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy and Bagheera) A House is not a home, without a cat. http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like > an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and > cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me. I believe I sent this little poem last year, but I always think of it this time of the year. I don't remember who wrote it --- "When at windows in December The season's signs we set. Some smile for they remember -- Others pray that they forget." Best wishes to all--- MLB We think about you a lot, Marina. It is so terribly hard to lose a cat you have loved as much as you loved Frank. He will always live in your heart and he will always be a very important part of rpca. He will never be forgotten and he will live on in all our hearts. I think that being selfish is as far away from the truth as possible, Marina. You always thought of Frank first. You gave him the purrfect life. Nowhere and with no one could he be happier. And right now he is playing with Nikki at the RB. Lots and lots of gentle hugs and purrs, Polonca and Soncek > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like > an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and > cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me. > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it > feels like an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. Hang in there Marina. He's still curled up in your bed in spirit, with Nikki. I still miss the heck out of Shadow, and that was a year and a half ago. You had two losses very close together. It isn't fair. Charish the memories you have. :) *hugs* SignatureCheryl > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like > an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. <<<<<<Marina>>>>>> I'm so sorry Marina. It will get better eventually. I still miss my Berfullyboo, Berfman, Berfart. It'll be a year since he took that trip to the bridge on the 24th. Like Frank, Berfert was a one of a kind dude, with a style of his own. I can finally think about him without breaking down. Pam S. >It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like >an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. I am so glad you have Miranda and Caliban to comfort you. And you know that all your friends around the world are there for you. Hugs and Purrs, -- CATherine >Thinking selfishly, it's a relief not to have to force the medicine down >his throat twice a day any more, or drag him to the vet's for poking and >needles. And it's a relief no to have to be sick with worry All.Tthe. >Time. This autumn has passed in a daze of continuous worry that made me >feel sick every day. I won't lie, it's a relief not to have wonder all >the time if Frank is in pain or not. I know how that is, Marina. I felt that relief after Zubie passed. It's bound to be mixed in with the grief and loss when the final illness has been long and difficult. SignatureWayne M. > All in all, we're taking one step at a time, one day at a time. And I > wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and > cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me. That's how it was for us when DeeDee went. We missed her awfully, and we found ourselves thinking of her every day, especially at bed time. And for the longest time we second-guessed ourselves about "did we wait too long?". We finally worked out for ourselves that we didn't wait too long, and that DeeDee was much, much better off The feeling of emptiness will get less day by day. Just hang in there and it will get better. And it sound like Cal and Mir are stepping up to do there duties now, too! That's excellent. (((((((((Marina)))))))))) SignatureJoy **Don't believe everything you think** > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like > an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and > cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me. ((((((((((((((( Marina )))))))))))))) SignatureBritta "There is no snooze button on a cat who wants breakfast." -- Unknown Check out pictures of Vino at: http://photos.yahoo.com/badwilson click on the Vino album > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels > like an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and > cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me. > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like > an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > years he spent mostly in bed, sleeping, with a trip to the food bowls > and the litter box now and then. snipped ((((HUGS))))) I remember how that feels. When we finally sent Cherokee to RB, the first week I truly think he was still in the house. Weird as that sounds. But I'd actually *see* him. Not SEE him actually, but have a glimpse out of the corner of my eye of him standing in front of the door looking out, where he was much of the time. Or in some other familiar spot. I was also relieved that the worry was over. It'll get better, with time. You'll eventually mostly just recall the funny, happy, wonderful things about Frank. Sherry > All in all, we're taking one step at a time, one day at a time. And I > wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and > cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me. Dear Marina, I know *exactly* how you feel. I know many others here do as well. Quetzie's last night with us was spent sleeping on my arms. He would stretch next to me and we would kinda spoon together. It was a wonderful way to fall asleep. It was very hard that first few nights without him. And I still miss that, for out of seven, none do the spooning thing. We're here for you and we will keep purring for time to heal the pain, to turn your tears into laughter, when you remember your times together. And for a tear to come back every so often, to remind you just how much you loved Frank. And Nikki. I know it, for I still cry for my beloved Quetzie every so often. Love, Victor SignatureVictor M. Martinez Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM) Send your spam here: uce@ftc.gov Email me here: pistorLITTER@BOXaustin.rr.com > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like > an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > years he spent mostly in bed, sleeping, with a trip to the food bowls and > the litter box now and then. Marina: I've been thinking of you and wondering how you are doing. I can only imagine that these ten days have felt like an eternity and I can see how bedtime would be worse. I keep sending purrs your way and will remember Frank, the gentle dignified boy whose stories jumped off the page. Take care, Susan M Otis and Chester > It's been ten days since Frank made his final journey, but it feels like > an eternity. I can't believe it hasn't been longer. [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > wanted to thank you all for your kind messages, e-mails, flowers and > cards. They've all helped me a lot and comforted me. We're still thinking of you Marina. The good memories of Frank will take over eventually, but it'll take a while. |
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