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Cat Forum / Cat Anecdotes / September 2004Poor Sammy!!! Long
5-month-old Sammy, along with my three adult cats (Bandit, 14, Demi, 6, and Jessie, 5) is cooped up in my bedroom while my mother-in-law is still here with her 3 dogs (2 large, one small) and one neutered male cat. The male cat is being kept shut up in an upstairs bedroom, and isn't really a problem (he's gorgeous - a polydactyl, all black, short-haired, and sweet as can be. [Side note: my MIL had him declawed and he stays mostly outside when they're home :< ! *WHY* do people like that even get cats!??! - AAARRRRGGGGGHHHHHH!!!] The dogs, however, are not trained, have the run of the house (my MIL wouldn't dream of locking up her babies), bark constantly, pee all over the place (my MIL won't even clean it up - I have to), and the largest one even managed to get in my bedroom (following behind my MIL) and started to attack Bandit (well, you know Bandit, she laid there with a "bring it on, sucker" look on her face, hissing and spitting, so it didn't bother her, but it scared the heck out of the other three). All my cats are on edge because of this, and Sammy is... well, Sammy. She has all that excess kitten energy and no place to go with it, and she tries to get the other cats to play with her. They're having none of it and are getting really tired of her antics. When I got in bed tonight I noticed an apple-sized spot of watery blood on my sheet next to my pillow. I immediately panicked and grabbed up each cat one by one to do a head to toe, microscopic examination to see who had been bleeding (because of the above I thought maybe MIL had been careless and let one of her dogs in my bedroom while I was at work today). I got to Sammy last (and got several scratches and a few bites while she squirmed around in my hands as I was trying to hold her still so I could examine her) and I noticed a small scab right on the tip of her nose, a bit inside and a bit outside the nostril. What I figured happened is... One of my adult cats lost patience with her and swatted her nose, giving her a good scratch in the process. She immediately went to Mommy's spot on the bed and started sucking her toe to comfort herself (which was why the spot of blood was so watery - kitten slobber mixed in with the blood from the scratch on her nose). I felt so bad for her I immediate picked her up to hug and scritch her, and, of course, she bit *my* nose in the process!!! Sorry for the vent, but as much as I love my MIL (she really is sweet, but I know where my DH gets his ergonomically challenged nature from), I am *SO* tired of her animals, and I am *THIS* far from telling her off (I am really, really angry about what she did/does to her beautiful little boy cat!!!). Thanks for giving me a place to gripe - I didn't want to hit my husband with all this, it is his mother, after all. Hugs, CatNipped > 5-month-old Sammy, along with my three adult cats (Bandit, 14, Demi, 6, and > Jessie, 5) is cooped up in my bedroom while my mother-in-law is still here [quoted text clipped - 50 lines] > > CatNipped Eee. How long do you think they will all have to stay? I can't understand why her dogs aren't trained either. Does she live with dog pee in HER house? > Eee. How long do you think they will all have to stay? I can't understand > why her dogs aren't trained either. Does she live with dog pee in HER house? They don't "have" to stay - my daughter, her husband, their three daughters, and their two (*EXTREMELY* well trained - which is what I'm used to) dogs left Thursday morning :< because my SIL had to go back to work today. New Orleans dodged a bullet this time and there wasn't any damage to anyone's house or anything. My MIL is staying on just to miss the traffic of people going back home to N.O. this weekend, and to visit with her son a while. Yes, the dogs pee in her house. Again, much as I love her, I have to be honest and tell you - she is a huge slob and her house if pretty filthy. She just had heart problems, had to get stints(?) in her arteries, and she is very overweight. She won't exercise, and certainly won't put forth the energy to clean house (or train her dogs). When she sees me running around cleaning she just gets this puzzled look as if to say, "Why are you doing that?" God(dess) give me patience!! Hugs, CatNipped >> Eee. How long do you think they will all have to stay? I can't understand >> why her dogs aren't trained either. Does she live with dog pee in HER [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > > CatNipped Wow. Purrs for much patience. > > God(dess) give me patience!! > > [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > > > Wow. Purrs for much patience. Thanks Karen, I need them! ;> Hugs, CatNipped SNIP> > Yes, the dogs pee in her house. Again, much as I love her, I have to be > honest and tell you - she is a huge slob and her house if pretty filthy. [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > > CatNipped All I can say is, You are a SAINT!! I can handle personal idiosyncracies and irritating habits for short periods of time, possibly. But three Un-housebroken dogs in MY home is way over the limit. No matter how much I loved a person, I would NOT tolerate dog pee and poop inside my home, no matter what standards applied in the guest's home. As my mother can tell you, I'm not exactly a spit and polish housekeeper myself. I've made my peace with my inner slob. But untidiness and the filth and smell of dog poo lying around are not the same thing. Don't get me wrong, I am very fond of dogs, and I grew up with a wonderful dog whom I love until this day although he crossed the Rainbow Bridge over 20 years ago. But he was HOUSEBROKEN!!!! The only time he had an "accident" in the house was near the end of his life when he was losing control of all his body functions. It was obvious he was terribly embarrassed about the incident, as well, poor old dear. I know you were giving shelter to your families in a time of great need, and it was very generous of you. And you've demonstrated superhuman patience. I think though that perhaps its time to give your MIL the bottle of Nature's miracle and some paper towels the next time one of the dogs has an accident. It is HER responsibility to clean that up since she won't take the trouble to train her dogs. Show her where the mess is, and stand there watching her with an expectant look on your face as if to say "Yes, I really DO expect you to clean that up--now." She can't really accuse you of being inhospitable, at this point. And however much your husband loves his mother, he must appreciate living in sanitary conditions with you now that he's used to it. If MIL feels insulted, she can pack up the doggies and her poor declawed (ACK! poor thing!) cat and go back to N.O. Then Sammy and the cats can get out of Purrdah. A great relief to everyone, I'm sure. Why are we here if not to let people let off badly needed steam? =o) Melissa > All I can say is, You are a SAINT!! I can handle personal idiosyncracies > and irritating habits for short periods of time, possibly. But three [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > peace with my inner slob. But untidiness and the filth and smell of dog poo > lying around are not the same thing. Don't get me wrong, I am very fond My sentiments exactly. I don't ever really "make" my bed, I just get up and straighten the covers a bit (the fancy pillows in their fancy shams "live" in my closet and only come out when company is coming. But I *DO* change and wash the sheets twice a week (my definition of the difference between "messy" and "dirty"). > of dogs, and I grew up with a wonderful dog whom I love until this day > although he crossed the Rainbow Bridge over 20 years ago. But he was > HOUSEBROKEN!!!! The only time he had an "accident" in the house was near the > end of his life when he was losing control of all his body functions. It > was obvious he was terribly embarrassed about the incident, as well, poor > old dear. Awww, poor little guy - that's so sad when that happens to them and their dignity is hurt. > I know you were giving shelter to your families in a time of great need, and > it was very generous of you. And you've demonstrated superhuman patience. I [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > with an expectant look on your face as if to say "Yes, I really DO expect > you to clean that up--now." She can't really accuse you of being I would, but that might hurt her feelings and cause her to leave early and *that* would hurt my DH's feelings. The problem is that, with all their faults, both my MIL and DH are very, *VERY* tender-hearted, kind, and loving souls. You all know how I feel about kittens, puppies, or any "helpless" creature - I would rather chew off my right arm that hurt, or hurt the feelings of an innocent. So, I'll just keep on cleaning and muttering to myself until she leaves. > inhospitable, at this point. And however much your husband loves his > mother, he must appreciate living in sanitary conditions with you now that [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > Melissa Thank you - that's really all I needed (that and a good night's sleep) to help me regroup and get the strength to carry on another day. Hugs, CatNipped SNIP> My sentiments exactly. I don't ever really "make" my bed, I just get up and > straighten the covers a bit (the fancy pillows in their fancy shams "live" > in my closet and only come out when company is coming. But I *DO* change > and wash the sheets twice a week (my definition of the difference between > "messy" and "dirty"). There is a definite difference, yes. I'm fond of clean sheets myself, although making my bed each morning is one of the few things I actually do. =o) > > of dogs, and I grew up with a wonderful dog whom I love until this day > > although he crossed the Rainbow Bridge over 20 years ago. But he was [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > Awww, poor little guy - that's so sad when that happens to them and their > dignity is hurt. He had this look of "Sorry! I know it's on the carpet, but I just lost control!" He was very old and arthritic at the time we finally had to let him go, and it hurt to watch him try to walk. When Pippin no longer wanted to go for his W-A-L-K, it was a definite sign he wasn't enjoying life, anymore. > > I know you were giving shelter to your families in a time of great need, > and [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > feelings of an innocent. So, I'll just keep on cleaning and muttering to > myself until she leaves. SNIP> > Thank you - that's really all I needed (that and a good night's sleep) to > help me regroup and get the strength to carry on another day. > > Hugs, > > CatNipped Well.... that confirms it, you ARE a saint. =o) But this is your family, and you know them best. I can understand not wanting to hurt her feelings or your DH's. I think that *I* might leave in the circumstances, instead. Ah well, it's just for a few more days. Maybe her dogs need a nice, vigorous walk out doors? Melissa > There is a definite difference, yes. I'm fond of clean sheets myself, > although making my bed each morning is one of the few things I actually do. > =o) I just never can get up the energy to do this before going to work every morning. It may have something to do with Sammy helping me put on my make-up and get dressed!! ;> > He had this look of "Sorry! I know it's on the carpet, but I just lost > control!" He was very old and arthritic at the time we finally had to let > him go, and it hurt to watch him try to walk. When Pippin no longer wanted > to go for his W-A-L-K, it was a definite sign he wasn't enjoying life, > anymore. Awwww! I had a d*g named Pippin (RB) too! He was *so* wonderful with the kids. Heas was a mixed breed, but mostly golden lab. > Well.... that confirms it, you ARE a saint. =o) But this is your family, > and you know them best. I can understand not wanting to hurt her feelings [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > > Melissa No, not a saint, just a wussy!! The pictures I posted show us outside on the upstairs deck, I've been urging her to come outside and enjoy to beautiful weather as much as possible!! <wicked grin> http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/MIL/ Hugs, CatNipped > There is a definite difference, yes. I'm fond of clean sheets myself, > although making my bed each morning is one of the few things I actually do. > =o) Me too. It's just so *nice* to get into a made bed at night.  SignatureMarina, Frank and Nikki marina (dot) kurten (at) pp (dot) inet (dot) fi Pics at http://uk.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/frankiennikki/ and http://community.webshots.com/user/frankiennikki <SNIP> > There is a definite difference, yes. I'm fond of clean sheets myself, > although making my bed each morning is one of the few things I > actually do. =o) <SNIP> So what you're saying is, changing the sheets every couple of months isn't enough? ;-) SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) A house is not a home, without a cat. > So what you're saying is, changing the sheets every couple of months > isn't enough? ;-) > -- > Adrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) > A house is not a home, without a cat. ROTFLMAO! If it were left up to my husband, we wouldn't change the sheets until they cracked and flaked off by themselves!!! Hugs, CatNipped ><SNIP> >> There is a definite difference, yes. I'm fond of clean sheets myself, [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] >So what you're saying is, changing the sheets every couple of months >isn't enough? ;-) Adrian ... did you perchance see this week's Jonathan Ross show?!!! SignatureCathi >> <SNIP> >>> There is a definite difference, yes. I'm fond of clean sheets [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > > Adrian ... did you perchance see this week's Jonathan Ross show?!!! As a matter of fact I did, I think Aggie & Kim are great. :-) SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) A house is not a home, without a cat. >> All I can say is, You are a SAINT!! I can handle personal idiosyncracies >> and irritating habits for short periods of time, possibly. But three [quoted text clipped - 63 lines] > > CatNipped Do you think they would use puppy pads? YOu could get some and put them around while she is there and explain it is just for easy cleanup? > Do you think they would use puppy pads? YOu could get some and put them > around while she is there and explain it is just for easy cleanup? Probably not - but each smelly spot on the carpet is that much more reason to get DH going on the Pergo flooring as soon as they leave!!! ;> Hugs, CatNipped >> Do you think they would use puppy pads? YOu could get some and put them >> around while she is there and explain it is just for easy cleanup? [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > CatNipped I would guess that DH is probably worried about how this is going and how you are taking it. It will surely prompt him. I hope he doesn't feel too bad. Sometimes, you just have to go with the flow. > I would guess that DH is probably worried about how this is going and how > you are taking it. It will surely prompt him. I hope he doesn't feel too > bad. Sometimes, you just have to go with the flow. Yeah, that's something else I'm taking into consideration. Since DH is so sensitive, I'm taking into account how he must feel about his mother's behavior. I know I would be embarrassed if it were my mother (and gawd knows there countless other types behaviors that my mother embarrasses me with - and DH does not mention!!). So I'm not "rubbing it in", I'm just gritting my teeth and bearing it. One thing that helps me cope is that I try to imagine how I would feel if she hadn't come and the storm had hit and something had happened to them all. Having them here, alive and well, is such a blessing that whatever little messes I have to put up with are inconsequential! Hugs, CatNipped >> Do you think they would use puppy pads? YOu could get some and put >> them around while she is there and explain it is just for easy [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > > CatNipped Every cloud has a silver lining. :-) SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) A house is not a home, without a cat. > Every cloud has a silver lining. :-) > -- > Adrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) > A house is not a home, without a cat. Yep, in this case a wood-framed lining! ;> Hugs, CatNipped >God(dess) give me patience!! > >Hugs, > >CatNipped Purrs for patience. You know what they say "You can pick your nose, you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your relatives. But ya love'em anyway ;o) Suz Macmoosette Thank Heavens There's Only One =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= Waiting for inspiration. Please hold while I contemplate my navel. |\__/| (=':'=) (")_(") > Purrs for patience. You know what they say "You can pick your nose, you can > pick your friends, but you can't pick your relatives. But ya love'em anyway ;o) > Suz > Macmoosette > Thank Heavens There's Only One > =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= ROTFLOL - how true, how true! Hugs, CatNipped I always heard the saying as "You can pick your nose, you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your friend's nose" ;) SignatureThe ONE and ONLY lefthanded-pathetic-paranoid-psychotic-sarcastic-wiseass-ditzy former-blonde in Bloomington! (And proud of it, too)? email me at nalee1964 (at) insightbb (dot) com http://community.webshots.com/user/mgcmdjeep >> Purrs for patience. You know what they say "You can pick your nose, you > can [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > > CatNipped >I always heard the saying as "You can pick your nose, you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your friend's nose" ;) There's more than one version. Suz Macmoosette Thank Heavens There's Only One =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= Waiting for inspiration. Please hold while I contemplate my navel. |\__/| (=':'=) (")_(") >> God(dess) give me patience!! >> [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your relatives. But ya > love'em anyway ;o) Suz The way I heard it was, "You can pick your nose, you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your friends nose" ;-) SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) A house is not a home, without a cat. I'm in a silly mood today :-) > 5-month-old Sammy, along with my three adult cats (Bandit, 14, Demi, 6, > and > Jessie, 5) is cooped up in my bedroom while my mother-in-law is still here > with her 3 dogs (2 large, one small) and one neutered male cat. ...> CatNipped Oooh, a bad case of cabin fever. I hope MIL and her entourage are soon on their way back home and you can get your household back to normal. Annie > Oooh, a bad case of cabin fever. > > I hope MIL and her entourage are soon on their way back home and you can > get your household back to normal. > > Annie Thanks Annie! She mentioned going back Monday or Tuesday, which is better than what I feared (a week or two - she's retired and doesn't have to go back to a job), so I'm holding my tongue. Hugs, CatNipped > > 5-month-old Sammy, along with my three adult cats (Bandit, 14, Demi, 6, > > and [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > > > Oooh, a bad case of cabin fever. Very! > I hope MIL and her entourage are soon on their way back home and you can > get your household back to normal. > > Annie Thanks Annie. She said she's thinking about leaving Monday or Tuesday, and I will be sad to see her go - but *NOT* sad to see the d*gs go!! Hugs, CatNipped I was wrong, I maligned my adult cats with false accusations. [They really are being good under the circumstances - no fighting, no litter box problems - and they're used to having the run of a *very* large hose, but now they're cooped up in one room with strange puppy d*gs invading their territory.] When I went back into my bedroom just now I noticed the glass candle holder on my bedside table was broken. Now I what I think happened is Sammy probably sniffed at one of the shards of glass and cut her nose that way. How the candle holder got broken (mumble, mumble, Sammy, mumble) is another story. Hugs, CatNipped > I was wrong, I maligned my adult cats with false accusations. [They really > are being good under the circumstances - no fighting, no litter box [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > > CatNipped Uh oh. Time to baby proof! > Uh oh. Time to baby proof! Yep, she's at the age where she can jump to the top of practically anything in the house, so putting things up high is no longer a solution. Hugs, CatNipped > I was wrong, I maligned my adult cats with false accusations. [They really > are being good under the circumstances - no fighting, no litter box [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > How the candle holder got broken (mumble, mumble, Sammy, mumble) is another > story. Aww, purrs for poor Sammy's nose. Also patience purrs being sent to you, CatNipped, for the remainder of your MIL's stay. SignatureMarina, Frank and Nikki marina (dot) kurten (at) pp (dot) inet (dot) fi Pics at http://uk.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/frankiennikki/ and http://community.webshots.com/user/frankiennikki > Aww, purrs for poor Sammy's nose. Also patience purrs being sent to you, > CatNipped, for the remainder of your MIL's stay. [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > Pics at http://uk.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/frankiennikki/ > and http://community.webshots.com/user/frankiennikki Thanks, it seems to be just a small scratch, but the placement (right inside the nostril) must be really painful. She keeps licking it and trying to clean it off her nose! Hugs, CatNipped >5-month-old Sammy, along with my three adult cats (Bandit, 14, Demi, 6, and >Jessie, 5) is cooped up in my bedroom while my mother-in-law is still here >with her 3 dogs (2 large, one small) and one neutered male cat. <snip> Purrs coming for patience- not just for you, but also for the adult kitties to put up with the hoolikitten. SignatureSteve Touchstone, faithful servant of Sammy, Little Bit and Rocky stouchst@JUNKsirinet.net [remove Junk for email] Home Page: http://www.sirinet.net/~stouchst/index.html Cat Pix: http://www.sirinet.net/~stouchst/animals.html > Purrs coming for patience- not just for you, but also for the adult > kitties to put up with the hoolikitten. [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > Home Page: http://www.sirinet.net/~stouchst/index.html > Cat Pix: http://www.sirinet.net/~stouchst/animals.html Thanks Steve. At least we have a big enough house* that I can hide away in my office (on the other side of the attached garage from the rest of the house) and "get away from it all" for some of the time (which is what I'm doing now). However, my husband works nights, so it's up to me to entertain MIL until he wakes up at about 1:00PM, so I can't stay with you guys for too long without being terribly rude). *We were really lucky to find this place for the bargain price we paid for it (in a very settled, quiet neighborhood - we took advantage of the economic depression in Houston). It is 30 years old, and needs *LOTS* of work, but this is the first time in my life I've ever lived in a two-story!!! We got it for what we would have paid for a small, two-bedroom, newer house in better condition - so it's worth it to us to just slowly fix it up as we go along. Hugs, CatNipped Oh, Catnipped! I'm just now catching up on the week's threads -- I couldn't do what you're doing without saying something I think but if ever this situation shows up again I'd set the house rules straight beforehand and put it in a way so your husband will buy into it. Meanwhile I'd tell your DH that he needs to help his mom decide whether Monday or Tuesday is when she's leaving and I'd also tell him that you're going to schedule a professional carpet cleaning job for early next week. I'd also consider getting some dog tiedowns for the backyard and let them be outside and get some fresh air (and you, too!) -- you can get them at Home Depot for very little and it just might help your sanity. After all, your animals need to be able to get out of the bedroom and share living space, too. Major, major purrs for you for the next few days. I'll certainly be thinking of you -- sorry, hope I'm not offending you, just feel like venting on your behalf! Christine > >5-month-old Sammy, along with my three adult cats (Bandit, 14, Demi, 6, and > >Jessie, 5) is cooped up in my bedroom while my mother-in-law is still here > >with her 3 dogs (2 large, one small) and one neutered male cat. > <snip> > Purrs coming for patience- not just for you, but also for the adult > kitties to put up with the hoolikitten. >Oh, Catnipped! I'm just now catching up on the week's threads -- I couldn't >do what you're doing without saying something I think but if ever this [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] >for the next few days. I'll certainly be thinking of you -- sorry, hope >I'm not offending you, just feel like venting on your behalf! Still purring for Sammy's sore nose! I hadn't thought of carpet cleaning until I read Christine's post, but agree it'd probably be best, so that the kitties won't be tempted to cover the scent with a little of their own. Once the bill comes you can present it to DH to be paid out of his walking-around money - or presented to his Mom as he wishes. Just a thought, I don't know the personalities involved, so this may not be such a good idea. SignatureSteve Touchstone, faithful servant of Sammy, Little Bit and Rocky stouchst@JUNKsirinet.net [remove Junk for email] Home Page: http://www.sirinet.net/~stouchst/index.html Cat Pix: http://www.sirinet.net/~stouchst/animals.html > Still purring for Sammy's sore nose! I hadn't thought of carpet > cleaning until I read Christine's post, but agree it'd probably be [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > Home Page: http://www.sirinet.net/~stouchst/index.html > Cat Pix: http://www.sirinet.net/~stouchst/animals.html Thanks Steve - I think she's forgotten all about it already, she's back to running around at breakneck speed. About the walking-around money (evil chuckling) - fer shur!! ;> Hugs, CatNipped > Oh, Catnipped! I'm just now catching up on the week's threads -- I couldn't > do what you're doing without saying something I think but if ever this > situation shows up again I'd set the house rules straight beforehand and put > it in a way so your husband will buy into it. Yeah, I should, but I really am a push-over! ;> > Meanwhile I'd tell your DH > that he needs to help his mom decide whether Monday or Tuesday is when she's > leaving and I'd also tell him that you're going to schedule a professional > carpet cleaning job for early next week. Well, we were talking about pulling up all the old carpet (as I wrote in a previous post, this house needs *LOTS* of fixing up) and put down pergo flooring. I'll probably use this as a prod to get DH going on that project. > I'd also consider getting some dog > tiedowns for the backyard and let them be outside and get some fresh air > (and you, too!) -- you can get them at Home Depot for very little and it > just might help your sanity. After all, your animals need to be able to get > out of the bedroom and share living space, too. Actually we have a *huge* back yard with an 8 foot fence - but her "babies" won't stay out there by themselves!! Here are some pictures of MIL, the d*gs, Siskel (two thumbs up!!) the polydactyl cat, and from our visit to the Mercer Arboretum about 1 mile from where we live. http://www.PossiblePlaces.com/MIL/ > Major, major purrs for you > for the next few days. I'll certainly be thinking of you -- sorry, hope > I'm not offending you, just feel like venting on your behalf! Not at all!!!! I appreciate your thinking of me and thank you for the purrs. > Christine Hugs, CatNipped Hugs and purrs to you and your kitties! I'd say you all both need and deserve them! -- Joy "You can never do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late." - Ralph Waldo Emerson > 5-month-old Sammy, along with my three adult cats (Bandit, 14, Demi, 6, and > Jessie, 5) is cooped up in my bedroom while my mother-in-law is still here [quoted text clipped - 50 lines] > > CatNipped > Hugs and purrs to you and your kitties! I'd say you all both need and > deserve them! > > -- > Joy Thanks Joy, you guys are a great outlet for pent-up frustrations. I must say I'm feeling a little ashamed at my uncharitable outburst last night. A good night's sleep can put a different light on things. Hugs, CatNipped > The dogs, however, are not trained, have the run of the house (my MIL > wouldn't dream of locking up her babies), bark constantly, pee all over the > place (my MIL won't even clean it up - I have to), and the largest one even I hope you don't mind my asking, but why is your MIL making the rules in your house? I certainly would not let anybody tell me what to do in my house. > Thanks for giving me a place to gripe - I didn't want to hit my husband with > all this, it is his mother, after all. That doesn't mean she can't be a pain in the behind. My golden rule for relationships is always honesty, all the time. If something is bothering, talk to your husband. SignatureVictor Martinez Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM) Send your spam here: uce@ftc.gov Email me here: pistorLITTER@BOXaustin.rr.com > I hope you don't mind my asking, but why is your MIL making the rules in > your house? I certainly would not let anybody tell me what to do in my > house. Of course I don't mind. It's because I'm such a push-over!! ;> No, really, as I expained in another note, my MIL and my DH both have *plenty* of crazy-making faults, but both of them are so tender-hearted, sweet, kind, generous, and loving that I would feel like the bit*h I'm often accused of being if I were to hurt their feelings. And laying down the rules (pointing out her lack of guest manners) would probably really hurt her feelings. I would rather just do the clean-up and let her think everything is fine than hurt her in any way (I feel about kind-hearted, easily-hurt people the same way I feel about kittens and children - I go out of my way to make sure they are never, *EVER* hurt in any way). > > Thanks for giving me a place to gripe - I didn't want to hit my husband with > > all this, it is his mother, after all. > > That doesn't mean she can't be a pain in the behind. My golden rule for > relationships is always honesty, all the time. If something is > bothering, talk to your husband. Oh, we've talked about it - I just "take it easy" on him (see above paragraph) and don't all-out vent like I'd like because that would hurt him. Since she raised him, most of the stuff she does that makes me crazy he doesn't even see as faults. You would not believe the "training" it took, over the 20 years we've been together, to teach him how to live in a clean (but often messy) environment (he still has a blind spot when it comes to dirt!! ;>). A good night's sleep has restored my energy, my patience, and my perspective, so I'll carry on another day. Thank you for being my shoulder to cry on! > -- > Victor Martinez > Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM) > Send your spam here: uce@ftc.gov > Email me here: pistorLITTER@BOXaustin.rr.com Hugs, CatNipped > doesn't even see as faults. You would not believe the "training" it took, > over the 20 years we've been together, to teach him how to live in a clean > (but often messy) environment (he still has a blind spot when it comes to > dirt!! ;>). Tom's given up trying to train me... :) He was (and kinda still is) a clean-freak when we met. I'm happy with a little bit of mess. It used to drive him crazy, but he's getting used to it... > A good night's sleep has restored my energy, my patience, and my > perspective, so I'll carry on another day. Thank you for being my shoulder > to cry on! I'm glad to hear you're feeling better. I'm sorry if I sounded preachy, but I care about you and I get protective of folks I care about... :) SignatureVictor Martinez Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM) Send your spam here: uce@ftc.gov Email me here: pistorLITTER@BOXaustin.rr.com > Tom's given up trying to train me... :) He was (and kinda still is) a > clean-freak when we met. I'm happy with a little bit of mess. It used to > drive him crazy, but he's getting used to it... LOL - yeah, me and DH are a bit like "The Odd Couple", except I'm not as extreme a clean-freak as Felix Unger, and DH's is not *quite* the slob that Oscar Madison(??) is > I'm glad to hear you're feeling better. I'm sorry if I sounded preachy, > but I care about you and I get protective of folks I care about... :) {{{{{{{{{{Victor}}}}}}}}}} Not at all preachy, just practical, good advice that I'm too much of a wimp to follow!! ;> > -- > Victor Martinez > Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM) > Send your spam here: uce@ftc.gov > Email me here: pistorLITTER@BOXaustin.rr.com Hugs, CatNipped > 5-month-old Sammy, along with my three adult cats (Bandit, 14, Demi, > 6, and Jessie, 5) is cooped up in my bedroom while my mother-in-law [quoted text clipped - 53 lines] > > Hugs, {{{{{{{{{{CatNipped}}}}}}}}}}}} Poor Sammy. You must have the patience of a saint. SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) A house is not a home, without a cat. > {{{{{{{{{{CatNipped}}}}}}}}}}}} Poor Sammy. You must have the patience > of a saint. > -- > Adrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) > A house is not a home, without a cat. Thank you Adrian. I must say I am more patient than when I was younger - grandbabies do that for you! ;> As I said in another post, the one thing that helps me cope is that I try to imagine how I would feel if she hadn't come and the storm had hit and something had happened to them all. Having them here, alive and well, is such a blessing that whatever little messes I have to put up with are inconsequential! Hugs, CatNipped Purrs for Sammy and for you, CN, SignaturePolonca & Soncek > 5-month-old Sammy, along with my three adult cats (Bandit, 14, Demi, 6, and > Jessie, 5) is cooped up in my bedroom while my mother-in-law is still here > with her 3 dogs (2 large, one small) and one neutered male cat. <snip > Purrs for Sammy and for you, CN, > -- > Polonca & Soncek Thanks Polonca. As much as I love my MIL I can't *wait* till she take those d*gs home!!! Hugs, CatNipped > 5-month-old Sammy, along with my three adult cats (Bandit, 14, Demi, 6, and > Jessie, 5) is cooped up in my bedroom while my mother-in-law is still here > with her 3 dogs (2 large, one small) and one neutered male cat. (snip) Poor Sammy? Poor you! Purrs!!!!!!! ------ Krista > Poor Sammy? Poor you! Purrs!!!!!!! > ------ > Krista Thanks Krista. MIL and menagerie are going home today. However, I asked DH to keep our crew in my bedroom until I get home. I want to clean the carpets really good, spray Fabreeze all over the house, pick up the bowls Siskel used, and disinfect the litter box he used (since he's a outside cat, I don't know what parasites he may have brought with him and I want to avoid my crew picking up anything nasty). So, maybe by about 8 tonight they'll finally get their house back, I know they'll be happy, and so will I!! Hugs, CatNipped |
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