Shmogg still entirely fails to get along with IBKFergus. I"ve given up
thinking that they'll get along, and just try to give them different spaces
to hang out in. I don't think it helps that when IBKFergus attacks Shmogg in
play, Shmogg takes it as a *real* attack and fights back. and of course,
when Shmogg attacks IBKFergus she interprets it as play rather than him
trying to inist he's the dominant cat, so she doesn't do the "OK, I accept
your dominance" thing in Cat.

Both have become phantom pissers, despite now having 3 well used
litterboxes.

I don't know where I can can get Feliway, or indeed, if it would help. I
susepct poor Shmogg just didn't cope well with the arrival of Fluffy, then
The Yowlet, and IBKFergus was the last straw. He's an old cat, and never had
the best temperament (he only accepts scritchings from me, won't sit near
anyone else etc etc) and I suspect, sadly, that he doesn't have alot
longer - maybe one or two years - left here before he goes to Rainbow
Bridge. I can't very well get rid of IBKFergus (besides which, she's not my
cat, her hoomin is most definatley Cary), nor will I find another home for
Fluffy, and poor old Shmogg has to have another think entirley if he thinks
I'll get rid of Cary for his benefit. So he'll just have to put up with the
situation as best he can.

That of course doens't help Kriesleriana at all.

If they don't see each other, the don't tend to fight, and thats about as
good as the status quo gets around here. There's the regular nighly brawl up
and down the corridor with much hissing and caterwailing as we're trying to
get Cary to go to sleep (b*st*rd c*ts), but otherwise Shmogg finds a
conveneient hidey hole and ignores IBKFergus (indeed, ignores the whole
world) during the day and IBKFergus has too many greeblings to chase to go
find Shmogg and bother him. At night, Shmogg lies next to my head, knowing
I'll shoo IBKFergus out at the slightest hint of sleep interruption (smart
cat). But they flatly don't get along, and after 9 months, I don't think
they ever will, despite IBKFergus being a very young female kitten when she
came into the hosue (allegedly the most likely to get on with an old
neutered male cat).

My advice to Krieleriana is: give them lots of their own space that the
other cat can't get to, and their own attention, and don't *expect* them to
become best of friends, especially if Stinky is a bit of a B*t*rd C*t int he
first place. Feliway may well work (I wish I could find a cheap source
here), but some cats just are, by nature, "only cats" and the best you may
get is an uneasy truce.

Good Luck!

Yowie

Well, the thing that is upsetting is it seems as if Stinky has
abdicated his claim to the house.  First he holed up down in the
basement, and growled at me.  I put a gate up so he can't escape to
the basment, because I don't want him to sulk down there and feel
abandoned.  There are more comfortable places in his house to hide and
sulk if that's what he wants to do.  And it's still HIS house.  I want
him to know that.  I would feel better if he was walking around
asserting himself, and laying on the comfy beds that he owns.

But he's not laying claim to the comfy beds, he's hiding under them,
and grumbling all the time.    He's barely acknowledging me.  He's
making some scary jungle noises, too, but he's not asserting himself,
he's just hiding.   I just cannot bear to see my sweet boy so unhappy.
This little rascal has grown up with a big brother playmate-- a big
factor in my choosing him-- I knew he would be friendly to my boy.  

Anybody have experience with Feliway?  

As for the hoolikitten-- damn, my digital camera is not working, and I
don't know why-- pictures will have to wait.  I have decided not to
name him until I am sure he will fit in.  But he is a fantastic little
character, a real joy.  He is black with a white bib, paws, chin and
whiskers, a long kitty with huge bat ears.  He has a very funny, smily
face.  I really wanted a tabby this time-- I have had nothing but BW
cats in my life.  But as it so often goes, he picked me out.  Right
now he is romping around and sliding on the wood floor.  He reminds me
so much of Stinky when he first came home-- we've almost called him
Stinky a couple of times.

Please, I very rarely ask for purrs, but please purr and pray that
these two sweet boys will be friends.

Theresa
Stinky Pictures: http://community.webshots.com/album/125591586JWEFwh
My Blog: http://www.humanitas.blogspot.com