It has been a long, difficult time for me, both this summer, these
past two weeks, and with roots in years ago.
My neighborhood has been falling apart. And I have been trying to
keep it together, especially to help the animals.
We have the neighbor in our building who kept a cat chained up for
eight years, and allowed her to die slowly and painfully, as her
children watched, of feleuk. She also kept her dog chained up inside
24/7, and then outside, 24/7, where she finally broke our state's
pathetic animal abuse laws and I was able to call the Humane Society.
I had done it once, years before, on another neighbor in our building
who had gone off for 24 hours, leaving her two dogs chained up out
back, no food, no water, no shelter. Their chains got entangled, and
one dog, desperately trying to get loose, jumped through an open storm
door with no window or screen, and was hanging there, strangling, when
I heard him. I called the Humane Society. Sadly, both dogs were
determined to be dangers and were put down.
We have the neighbor who keeps his elderly beagle chained up outside
and passes out on his couch while the dog howls at 3 am. The dog has
food and water outside now because, of course, I called the Humane
Society. But he also has a habit of getting loose from his stake and
running out into the street. Once, DH and I ran around at 3 am or so,
trying to catch him. When we told the owner and asked him to call the
dog, he shrugged and said "He's old. If he goes splat, oh, well!"
We have the neighbor across the street who has two unneutered/unspayed
cats, one of whom recently gave birth to three kittens and wasn't
nursing. My next-door-neighbor found out about that, and came to me
to ask for ideas. I gave him what info I had and searched out more,
but I'm sure they did not take the mother cat to the vet as they
should have, and I have heard nothing further of the kittens.
A few weeks ago, I heard the chihuahua belonging to yet another
neighbor howling for at least 10-15 minutes. I went down to check out
what was going on and make sure the dog was okay. For my concern, I
was rewarded by insults, obscenities and finally, a threat.
The first neighbor I mentioned has always felt I hurt the little boy
who "owned" the two dogs that were put down, and has never forgiven me
for calling the Humane Society on that situation. As you can imagine,
after I called them on *her*, she stopped speaking to me. And told
her children I was "evil", and has told the neighbors who knows what?
I had never even met the woman who threatened me. But my neighbor
has. And I'm sure the woman who threatened me had her head filled
with wrong ideas about me by the first neighbor.
On top of all that, the first neighbor had a teenage girl living with
her for a time, ostensibly to babysit. This girl brought a contingent
of petty criminal teenagers with her into the neighborhood. Kids were
smoking dope and drinking beer on other peoples' porches, things were
showing up missing from peoples' yards and porches, and general havoc
was being wreaked. I talked to the police, I talked to my landlord,
and things got done. And my first neighbor got even madder.
The other day, First Neighbor's daughter's friend was smacking the
tree out front of my apartment with a stick. I yelled out, not
knowing what kids were out there, "Don't hit that tree!" I could
still see the stick waving around, so I went out on my porch to see
who they were and warn them again. First Neighbor came out, and let
loose a stream of insults and obscenities aimed at me. And this was
the day after I went down to the Prosecutor's office about the woman
who threatened me, and set up a mediation for First Neighbor and me.
This has got to stop. I feel like a pariah in my own neighborhood,
where I have lived for over 17 years. It is depressing, and
frightening.
I apologize for the long rant. All I am trying to do is help the
animals in the neighborhood, and keep the neighborhood from becoming
dangerous. And for this, I get screamed at, harrassed, lied about,
and threatened. It makes me want to cry.
First Neighbor and I have a mediation session scheduled for next week.
I don't know whether it will help or not. Any purrayers that it does
are welcome.
I just want it to stop. I just want people to be kind to each other
and to be kind to their animals. I guess I want too much.
A very depressed,
Ginger-lyn
Dan and Nancy Mahoney - 17 Sep 2003 19:41 GMT
> First Neighbor and I have a mediation session scheduled for next week.
> I don't know whether it will help or not. Any purrayers that it does
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> Ginger-lyn
You've got mega-purrs from the Highland contingent.
I'm so sorry to hear about that situation. Sometimes we *have* to look
out for other people's animals. There are all together too many people
out there who just have no idea what it really means to care for an animal.
We'll keep our fingers crossed that the situation will resolve itself in
a positive fashion, and quickly.
I kind of wish there were laws requiring some sort of common-sense test
before people could own animals.
Dan
Yowie - 17 Sep 2003 22:58 GMT
> I'm so sorry to hear about that situation. Sometimes we *have* to look
> out for other people's animals. There are all together too many people
> out there who just have no idea what it really means to care for an animal.
Next door's dog, a beautiful pure bred spaniel of some sort used to howl and
cry all day. It sounded absolutley heartbreaking. Eventually I had to
confront the neighbours - at first they though I was complaining about the
noise, but finally convinced them it wasn't the noise as such that was
bothering me, it was the welfare of the dog.
They said it was because the dog had seperation anxiety and that while the
dog, Bella, was being treated with "happy pills" the only real way to train
her out of it was to go out for increasingly long periods so she'd get used
to her people not being there.
I didn't konw whether to believe them or not, as I really don't know them,
and asked if it was OK with them if I could go into their yard and check on
Bella if she started crying. Thankfully they agreed.
And yes, I am pleased to report that Bella has lots of toys, food & water
and a nice kennel out there, and now only howls and cries if her humans
aren't home by the time it gets dark. And she's also used to me coming into
her yard to give her a pat and reassure her.
They seem to be good neighbours. But I couldn't have lived with myself
listening to Bella's heart wrenching cries and howls without checking up on
them - and thankfully they understand where I'm coming from. I can only hope
they'd do the same thing for Fluffy if for some reason we were out and she
started crying.
Yay for good neighbours.
Yowie
Victor M. Martinez - 17 Sep 2003 21:36 GMT
Sorry to hear it's so bad right now. Let's hope things start improving.

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polonca12000 - 17 Sep 2003 22:41 GMT
This really is so very sad. We are sending lots of purrs, best wishes and
hugs that things start getting better,

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> It has been a long, difficult time for me, both this summer, these
> past two weeks, and with roots in years ago.
<snip>> I just want it to stop. I just want people to be kind to each other
> and to be kind to their animals. I guess I want too much.
>
> A very depressed,
>
> Ginger-lyn
Yowie - 17 Sep 2003 22:50 GMT
Many purrs and prayers - and some helpful energy - on their way, Ginger.
I really hope that the mediation goes well.
Yowie
> It has been a long, difficult time for me, both this summer, these
> past two weeks, and with roots in years ago.
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> Ginger-lyn
CATherine - 18 Sep 2003 02:42 GMT
>It has been a long, difficult time for me, both this summer, these
>past two weeks, and with roots in years ago.
>
>My neighborhood has been falling apart. And I have been trying to
>keep it together, especially to help the animals.
I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time. I hope the
mediation works for you. A lot of people get mad and defensive when
they are found out doing wrong. Their self esteem is so low they deny
even to themselves they are doing wrong. So they strike out at the one
who brought to their attention. May God bless the furry victims and
help you with your neighborly work.
CATherine
Ginger-lyn Summer - 19 Sep 2003 01:52 GMT
>I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time. I hope the
>mediation works for you. A lot of people get mad and defensive when
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>CATherine
Thanks, Catherine, and I think you are on target about the feelings on
the other side. It's just so sad; if they could only see what is
going on, and accept responsibility, I would think their self-esteem
would be greatly enhanced by knowing they learned something good and
started doing the right thing. I can only hope that can happen.
Ginger-lyn
Sherry - 18 Sep 2003 05:29 GMT
>I just want it to stop. I just want people to be kind to each other
>and to be kind to their animals. I guess I want too much.
>
>A very depressed,
>
>Ginger-lyn
>I just want it to stop. I just want people to be kind to each other
>and to be kind to their animals. I guess I want too much.
>
>A very depressed,
>
>Ginger-lyn
I'm sorry you're having suuch a rough time with the sorry excuses for humans
that you have for neighbors....but....
YOU GO GIRL. *Someone* has to "speak for those who cannot speak for
themselves." Bless you for having the courage to do that. You keep it up. Is
there a humane society with an abuse team in your town?
Sherry
Ginger-lyn Summer - 19 Sep 2003 01:55 GMT
>I'm sorry you're having suuch a rough time with the sorry excuses for humans
>that you have for neighbors....but....
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>Sherry
Thanks, Sherry. I'm not the only one in my neighborhood; my neighbor
in the next block has been dealing with trying to help the animals in
her block for several years now, and is in the same sort of situation,
only worse (her car windows have been smashed and things stolen off
her porch). It is frustrating. There is a Humane Society, but they
are fairly useless, and have only *one* Humane Officer to investigate
abuse complaints :-( It can take days or even weeks to have them come
out and investigate. I wish they were a better help for sure.
Ginger-lyn
Christine Burel - 18 Sep 2003 05:54 GMT
What an awful situation, Ginger-lyn...my heart goes out to you for all your
efforts to help the animals. Is there a chance the SPCA could step in and
help you? In any case, purrs that the mediation will help resolve some of
the nastiness and give you a chance to breathe; we'll be purring for you.
And sending many supportive hugs.
Christine
> It has been a long, difficult time for me, both this summer, these
> past two weeks, and with roots in years ago.
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> Ginger-lyn
JHBennett - 18 Sep 2003 08:45 GMT
Ginger-Lyn, it is a sad truism that there are more horse's a.ses in this
world than horses. I know, I live next to one whom I discovered poisoning
animals, but that is another story.
People, including me, are often very free to give advise when they are
not going to bear the consequences. That's a way of saying that I would
likely deal with the situation more aggressively than you might feel
comfortable with. Whatever course of action you pursue must be something
you can live with, and I think that includes not compromising your
principles. Ammongst all of the other things you have done and plan to do,
might I suggest speaking to a lawyer and determining, if you might have
cause for a civil suit or restraining order, with some of these bad actors.
For sure I wouldn't go into a mediation without a firm idea of what I would
demand of the other party and, if possible, discussing it with an attorney.
It may well be that any such agreement you reach could, in effect, be a
binding contract, having the weight of law.
I, and many others here, wish you the best. Have courage and keep your
wits about you ;-)
Sincerely,
Jack
Ginger-lyn Summer - 19 Sep 2003 02:00 GMT
>Ginger-Lyn, it is a sad truism that there are more horse's a.ses in this
>world than horses. I know, I live next to one whom I discovered poisoning
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>Sincerely,
>Jack
Thank you, Jack. I know you are right, and I am so sorry about the
horrible neighbor you have. I hope there is legal recourse there to
stop him/her.
Thanks for the suggestion about speaking to an attorney. I may be
able to ask my landlord's ex-wife (who is an attorney who *despises*
Neighbor #1) for some advice. I know I need to have a clear idea of
what I want from the neighbor going into mediation, and I do. I am
sure she will not be willing to do what I wish, but all I can do is
ask.
Thanks for the suggestions and support.
Ginger-lyn