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Cat Forum / Cat Anecdotes / April 2004Having a really tough day
I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school events and picking up dinner. It was the kind of night you don't like to be out. The classic dark and raining night. A few blocks from home a little poodle trotted across the street in front of the car. I wasn't going very fast but the road was slick and it seemed like I skidded forever before I hit her. She looked enough like my own dog to have been one of her littermates. I couldn't bring myself to even get out of the car. My grandson got out to check and her owners who heard my brakes squeal were there immediately. She was already dead. She had accidentally gotten out and was headed for the park across the street from her house. I don't know how I get the picture out of my head. I don't know if I should go to see the owners today or send them a note or what I should do. And I think my own ancient pup Sugar and my sweet Rosie cat have sore ribs from the hugs. Or holding on to then for dear life as the case may be. Jo >I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school >events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > >Jo Oh, Jo. I am *so* sorry. What a nightmare for you. I think a note would mean a lot to the owners, and I think it would do you some good, too. It's not your fault, but I know how awful you must feel. Hugs to you. Sherry > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > And I think my own ancient pup Sugar and my sweet Rosie cat have sore ribs > from the hugs. Or holding on to then for dear life as the case may be. How horrible for you, Jo. Many purrs for you and for the dog's people. I think they would appreciate a note from you, if you can bring yourself to write one.  SignatureMarina, Frank and Nikki Email marina (dot) kurten (at) pp (dot) inet (dot) fi Pics at http://uk.f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/frankiennikki >I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school >events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > >Jo I can't imagine any worse thing to happen to an animal lover than to be (even inadvertantly) responsible for an animal's suffering and/or death. Purrs for the poor poodle's peaceful passage, and for her grieving owners. And for you, too- what dreadful luck. Theresa alt.tv.frasier FAQ: http://www.im-listening.net/FAQ/ Single-mindedness is all very well in cows or baboons; in an animal claiming to belong to the same species as Shakespeare it is simply disgraceful. (Aldous Huxley) Oh I am so sorry Jo. I don't know what to tell you. I think I would indeed write the people. I think it would help you feel better to express to the people involved how you feel. I think it might help a little. I'm really sorry for all of you. So sad. Karen > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo I think you need a few hugs too, Jo. I'm so sorry. I remember my Dad hit a dog once, and it tore him up. (((((((((((Jo))))))))))) Joy > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo Adog jumped out in front of my sons car once we were driving at normal speed it was a big dog, my stopped and got out of the car tocheck it was ok, it hadn't even been knocked to the ground, but he still wanted to make sure, but the dog nearly tore him apart, well it bit his hand, he still tried to see if it had an address on its collar, but of course it wouldn't let him near it Phil had to drive straight to the hospital for a tetanus shot, Jean.P. > I think you need a few hugs too, Jo. I'm so sorry. I remember my Dad > hit a dog once, and it tore him up. [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > > > > Jo > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo What an awful thing to happen to you. Purrs for you and the dog's owners! SignatureMargaret Fine mefine@mindspring.com >I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school >events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > >Jo Oh, {{{{{Jo}}}}}}} I am so sorry. This has to be so devastating for you. If you can, I think it would be good to go see the owners I would think they would be appreciative that you stopped, and how you feel, and maybe you can help comfort each other. You will probably grieve this little one as though it was your own, and that's okay. Do what you need to do. And realize that no matter what, accidents *happen*. And there is usually not a thing we can do to stop them. You did the best you could. Blessings, Ginger-lyn Oh no Jo!!!! I've been there before and it hurts like hell. Many hugs and soothing prayers. Grace > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo Jo, accidents happen. None of it was your fault. We will light a candle for the little pup's safe journey to the RB. Jazz & his mama SignatureIrulan from the stars we came, to the stars we return from now until the end of time > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo ...> I don't know how I get the picture out of my head. I don't know if I should > go to see the owners today or send them a note or what I should do. ... > Jo I remember when one of our dogs got out and was hit by a car. The driver couldn't help it. The dog ran right under his tires. The poor man stopped and he had tears in his eyes. It meant a lot to us that he stopped and that he cared. I think a note to the owners would be a nice gesture. Hugs, Annie Please remember it was not your fault, Jo. Lots of gentle hugs and purrs, SignaturePolonca & Soncek > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after > school events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > > Jo Jo, this is terrible for you and the poor poodle's owners. I think they would appreciate a note. And as others have said, it might help you, too. Accidents happen but that doesn't make us feel any better about them. Bless you. Jill Jo, I am so sorry you had to go through this. It was an accident and you shouldn't blame yourself. I am sure the owners appreciated you stopping to check and I also think they would appreciate a note from you. *hugs* Victor SignatureVictor Martinez Owned and operated by the Fantastic Seven (TM) Send your spam here: uce@ftc.gov Email me here: pistorLITTER@BOXaustin.rr.com {{{Jo}}} what a rotten thing to go through. Try to remember that it wasn't something that you could prevent, sometimes sh*t just happens. It's hard to say which would be better, sending a note or dropping by to offer condolences, but I would appreciate either. Maybe write a note and drop it off. You might find the owners would appreciate a hug, but then again they may be going to the anger stage of grief. Whatever you decide, we're lighting a candle here, and sending purrs to you, the passengers who had to witness it, and the sad owners. SignatureSteve Touchstone, faithful servant of Sammy, Little Bit and Rocky stouchst@JUNKsirinet.net [remove Junk for email] Home Page: http://www.sirinet.net/~stouchst/index.html Cat Pix: http://www.sirinet.net/~stouchst/animals.html {{{Jo}}}!!! What a sad story -- I'm really sorry this happened to you and the little poodle. Many purrs from us to help heal your heart and please know we're sending purrs for the owners and for the little dog to help him to the Rainbow Bridge. It might help you and the owners if you send them a note. Hugs, Christine > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo sending comforting purrs. If you don't feel up to visiting the owners, I think a note would be okay. Brenda Yes Jo, do go and see the owners,My dog Ralph was run over years ago in a torrential downpour and he was a streetwise dog, the man who rang said his girl friend was driving and told us where he was my son went to pick him upwhile my daughter and I sobbed our hearts out with arms wrapped round each other.He phoned us but it would have been better had he come to tell us. It wasn't raining when I let him out,I couldn't go to work that morning, I'm so sorry for you as I know you must feel so bad, but try not to, the weather caused it and the dog running out into the road {{{{{{Jo}}}}} Jean.P. > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after > school events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > > Jo Jo, it was an accident. I know that doesn't get it out of your head, but it wasn't anyone's fault. Please do not blame yourself. :( SignatureCheryl What horrible luck, Jo. And it was just bad luck, there was nothing anyone could have done to prevent the accident, so don't go through the "if only" game if you can help it. Clearly, though, you cared about this little life, and I think it would do you good, and the owners good, if you let them know how bad you feel. Perhaps a nice print out of the Rainbow Bridge poem? Or a short note, or even participate in the burial arrangements for the dog? Your grief for the tyke is just as real as the owner's grief and you need to express it in a way that is meaningful to you. Purrs and hugs, Yowie > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo I'm so sorry! What a terrible accident. But don't beat yourself up about it, like you said, you slid and the weather was bad. Hugs and purrs, -- Britta Sandpaper kisses, a cuddle and a purr. I have an alarm clock that's covered in fur! Check out pictures of Vino at: http://photos.yahoo.com/badwilson click on the Vino album > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo Jo I am so sorry, what an extremely devastating experience. You did everything you could. I pray you can find peace soon. Purrs, Fuga > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > I skidded forever before I hit her. She looked enough like my own dog to > have been one of her littermates. <snipped> Purrs for the poodle's safe journey to the Bridge, for her owners' grief on their loss, and comforting purrs for you. There's no way you could have avoided it. A note to the owners would be a nice touch when you can bring yourself to write it. Sam Thank you all for your support. After beating myself up for a while today wondering if I could have avoided the pup by swerving rather than locking the brakes and skidding, I remembered why you don't swerve unless you have a very clear view. There could always be a kid running after the dog. I found the family and told them how sorry I was this evening. So they at least wouldn't think it was someone who didn't care and just left. It went OK. Jo > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo > I found the family and told them how sorry I was this evening. So > they at least wouldn't think it was someone who didn't care and just > left. It went OK. I bet they feel better knowing the facts and that it wasn't someone who didn't care. I can also imagine some tears during that. :( SignatureCheryl > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school > events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jo ((((((Jo)))))) I am so sorry this happened to you - please don't beat yourself up over what you couldn't help, though I know you can hardly help feeling bad about it. If you can write a note to the owners, it might start to ease the pain for both of you. We are sending our best purrs to everyone involved. ------ Krista > I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after > school events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > > Jo I'm so sorry. That's something I've been terrified would happen to me since I started driving. Knowing there was nothing you could have done doesn't really help. Sending purrs for you and the poodles family and lighting a candle. SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy, Milo & Bagheera) A house is not a home, without a cat. >I was out last evening collecting the kids from their various after school >events and picking up dinner. [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > > Jo, I am so very sorry that this has happened to you. Purrs and gentle headbutts as well as hugs and prayers on the way for you, the kids and the slaves of the poodle. We shall light a candle tonight in memory of the poodle. Julie, Hobbes, Selena and Lacey > I don't know how I get the picture out of my head. I don't know if I should > go to see the owners today or send them a note or what I should do. (((((((Jo))))))) Purrs and kind thoughts and wishes for you from us here. Pam, Rob, and the NC nine |
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