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Cat Forum / Cat Anecdotes / November 2003"Getting rid" of a cat......
I need to vent about this & I knew other cat lovers would understand.... My Father In Law has a new girlfriend & she had a gorgeous little tuxedo named Patches that is 4 yrs old.... My Father in law is a cheap, manipulative, cat hating bastard! He told his Girlfriend to "Get rid" of her cat & DUMPS him on me! It took me 3 days to find the little guy a home & he truly was delightful the whole time!!! My 9 yr. old Siamese even liked him!!!! :)) WHY would a woman choose a man over her companion of 4 years?!?!?!? When me & my hubby first started going out...I told my hubby Me & Bastet (My kitty) were a package deal & he said he wouldn't have it any other way! I'm sorry...I just had to get this off my chest. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Vincent 6/27/01 Dorothy 6/4/03 Quitters never win, and winners never quit, but those who never quit AND never win are idiots. > My Father in law is a cheap, manipulative, cat hating bastard! He > told his Girlfriend to "Get rid" of her cat & DUMPS him on me! > WHY would a woman choose a man over her companion of 4 years?!?!?!? > When me & my hubby first started going out...I told my hubby Me & > Bastet (My kitty) were a package deal & he said he wouldn't have it > any other way! > I'm sorry...I just had to get this off my chest. Some women are so insecure they will do anything to have a "man". I feel sorry for her. I give the relationship 6 months to a year, then she'll be wishing she still had her cat. Jill > > My Father in law is a cheap, manipulative, cat hating bastard! He > > told his Girlfriend to "Get rid" of her cat & DUMPS him on me! [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > > Jill I totally agree with you Jill! Some women don't have enough self-esteem to say no. I can see nothing but problems with this relationship. At least the kitty was left with KatGrrrl and not dumped at an SPCA or worse--just dumped somewhere. Junebug > "jmcquown" <jmcquown@bellsouth.net> wrote > > Some women are so insecure they will do anything to have a "man". I feel > > sorry for her. I give the relationship 6 months to a year, then she'll be > > wishing she still had her cat. > I totally agree with you Jill! Some women don't have enough self-esteem to > say no. I can see nothing but problems with this relationship. At least > the kitty was left with KatGrrrl and not dumped at an SPCA or worse--just > dumped somewhere. It seems to me that not only does this woman have low self-esteem, but so does the Father-in-law, if he is so afraid of having the cat share the woman's affection.  SignatureMarina, Frank and Nikki marina (dot) kurten (at) pp (dot) inet (dot) fi > I need to vent about this & I knew other cat lovers would understand.... > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > a package deal & he said he wouldn't have it any other way! > I'm sorry...I just had to get this off my chest. Purrs he's found a forever home. I do not understand people. Karen >I need to vent about this & I knew other cat lovers would understand.... > [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > >I don't understand her either -- she probably will live to regret it. I am sorry you couldn't keep the cat. Your Siamese probably would have enjoyed the company. Best wishes. MLB >My Father in law is a cheap, manipulative, cat hating bastard! He told his >Girlfriend to "Get rid" of her cat & DUMPS him on me! What's really sad is that relationships that start out like that are either bad or end quickly. Then she doesn't have her loving little kitty anymore to help her through the sad time. I wouldn't give up my cat for a guy because that guy obviously wouldn't be for me and I'd miss cats terribly. A guy who everyone said was a "total ten" asked to marry me but he said I had to get rid of my cat Boots. I said no way! then along came a much nicer guy who was better suited to me. The relationship with the "ten" would not have lasted. I saved myself a lot of heartbreak and my great kitty, Boots. The bad thing was...He was going to KILL him with a mallet & If I hadn't taken time off work to come & get him-It wouldn't have had a happy ending!!!! I don't understand a woman who would let a guy do that....I really don't!! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Vincent 6/27/01 Dorothy 6/4/03 Quitters never win, and winners never quit, but those who never quit AND never win are idiots. > The bad thing was...He was going to KILL him with a mallet & If I > hadn't taken time off work to come & get him-It wouldn't have had a > happy ending!!!! I don't understand a woman who would let a guy do > that....I really don't!! I don't think it's a matter of "letting" him.. if someone has plans to do something like that, it would be pretty hard to stop him. I mean, she has to go to work, right? Or to sleep? She can't watch over the cat 24/7. What I can't understand is, how she could even stand to be in the same room with, let alone marry, someone who threatened to kill her cat. Wow, I think the other posters who talked about low self-esteem had it right. She must be feeling pretty desperate to be willing to put up with this creep. And you know what psychologists say about people who are cruel to animals... humans are next. I hope you don't find *her* at your door someday, looking for refuge. Hopefully she'll dump him before it comes to that! Joyce > The bad thing was...He was going to KILL him with a mallet & If I hadn't taken > time off work to come & get him-It wouldn't have had a happy ending!!!! > I don't understand a woman who would let a guy do that....I really don't!! This woman is an idiot for staying with your father-in-law. She should have thrown him out immediately. Not only was he willing to commit a real atrocity against the poor cat, but he very well could be a menace to this woman in the future. Wife/child abusers often start out as animal abusers. MaryL (take out the litter to reply) Photos of Duffy and Holly: >'o'< http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (Introducing Duffy to Holly) http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in") > The bad thing was...He was going to KILL him with a mallet & If I hadn't taken > time off work to come & get him-It wouldn't have had a happy ending!!!! > I don't understand a woman who would let a guy do that....I really don't!! And she even SPEAKS to this person. That's just plain amazing stupidity. Karen > The bad thing was...He was going to KILL him with a mallet & If I hadn't taken > time off work to come & get him-It wouldn't have had a happy ending!!!! > I don't understand a woman who would let a guy do that....I really don't!! Not only would I NEVER have a relationship with this kind of person, but I wouldn't even associate with this type. Flippy > Not only would I NEVER have a relationship with this kind of person, but I > wouldn't even associate with this type. > > Flippy Ditto! When I first met Nancy (back when we both worked for one of the local newspapers) I was impressed that she was a cat person. When we started seeing each other I was also impressed when she made it clear that anyone who wanted to see her had to get along with DD cat as well. Dan > The bad thing was...He was going to KILL him with a mallet & If I hadn't taken > time off work to come & get him-It wouldn't have had a happy ending!!!! The guy must be truly a repulsive human heing; manipulative, demanding, and willing to kill a helpless animal because he doesn't want it around. What a piece of work. > I don't understand a woman who would let a guy do that....I really don't!! > > Because she's weak-minded. Some women will do nearly anything to *get a man*. It's their reason for existing. Pretty pathetic. > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > Vincent 6/27/01 [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > Quitters never win, and winners never quit, but those who never quit AND never > win are idiots. > The bad thing was...He was going to KILL him with a mallet & If I hadn't taken > time off work to come & get him-It wouldn't have had a happy ending!!!! > I don't understand a woman who would let a guy do that....I really don't!! Good grief. I can't understand wanting to *know* a person who'd do such a thing, much less be his girlfriend. I have a feeling she's going to be very, very sorry. ------ Krista What a monster! The one that the girlfriend should abandon really is *him* and not the kitty. I'm so glad you found a good home for the kitty. Best wishes, SignaturePolonca & Soncek > The bad thing was...He was going to KILL him with a mallet & If I hadn't taken > time off work to come & get him-It wouldn't have had a happy ending!!!! [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > Quitters never win, and winners never quit, but those who never quit AND never > win are idiots. > The bad thing was...He was going to KILL him with a mallet & If I > hadn't taken time off work to come & get him-It wouldn't have had a > happy ending!!!! I don't understand a woman who would let a guy do > that....I really don't!! Anyone who would do a thing like that should be locked up and the key thrown away. SignatureAdrian A House Is Not A Home, Without A Cat. >The bad thing was...He was going to KILL him with a mallet & If I hadn't taken >time off work to come & get him-It wouldn't have had a happy ending!!!! [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > >How old is this man? He may be starting with Alzheimers -- I understand some get violent. > The bad thing was...He was going to KILL him with a mallet & If I hadn't taken > time off work to come & get him-It wouldn't have had a happy ending!!!! > I don't understand a woman who would let a guy do that....I really don't!! Danger! Danger! Sorry to say, but my *abusive person* alert is screaming. I can appreciate that some people don't like cats, and I can appreciate that some people can't live with cats. However, anyone who threatens to kill a cat in such a violent manner gives me the *very* strong impression that he is likely to use the threat of violence, or violence itself, to get their own way ie, they are likely to be a violent, abusive person. I hope I'm wrong, but if I'm right, I'm truly sorry that you are even vaguely associated with this person, and i hope for Bast's sake that his new girlfriend comes to her senses and gets the hell away from him. Yowie > What's really sad is that relationships that start out like that are either bad > or end quickly. Then she doesn't have her loving little kitty anymore to help [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > me. The relationship with the "ten" would not have lasted. I saved myself a lot > of heartbreak and my great kitty, Boots. Good for you, Mary. I've spent 15 years of my life with Frank, and nearly as long with Nikki, so it would be ridiculous for a guy that I'd known for fifteen minutes to demand that I 'get rid of' them. That would never happen. Purrs for Patches to have found his onetruehome now. SignatureMarina, Frank and Nikki marina (dot) kurten (at) pp (dot) inet (dot) fi >I need to vent about this & I knew other cat lovers would understand.... > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] >a package deal & he said he wouldn't have it any other way! >I'm sorry...I just had to get this off my chest. People like you're describing are a mystery to me, both the FIL who would make the demand and the girlfriend who gave up Patches SignatureSteve Touchstone, faithful servant of Sammy, Little Bit and Rocky stouchst@JUNKsirinet.net [remove Junk for email] http://www.sirinet.net/~stouchst/index.html I certainly understand. I have Skeeter today because a woman who worked with my son had a cat and a live-in boyfriend. The boyfriend decided he was allergic to the cat, so she got rid of the cat. It was her loss and my gain. She and the boyfriend broke up several months later, after his drug use got really heavy. Some women have no sense at all! -- Joy Owned and operated by Lindy and Skeeter > I need to vent about this & I knew other cat lovers would understand.... > [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > Quitters never win, and winners never quit, but those who never quit AND never > win are idiots. > I need to vent about this & I knew other cat lovers would understand.... > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > a package deal & he said he wouldn't have it any other way! > I'm sorry...I just had to get this off my chest. Maybe she's desperate to get a man? (I doubt whether I would ever be THAT desperate!) > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > Vincent 6/27/01 > Dorothy 6/4/03 > > Quitters never win, and winners never quit, but those who never quit AND never > win are idiots. In younger days, this happened to me. No threat of injury to the cat but "I'll just drop him off somewhere". So one day after a vet visit it was "Well he's in the carrier. We could just.." So to a local stables we went. Himself had a long walk to his car, bout 7 miles, still at my house. Chiya and I had tune and crab snacks and a smirk when the car started. I always thought of it as "getting rid if a cad". > I need to vent about this & I knew other cat lovers would understand.... > [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > Quitters never win, and winners never quit, but those who never quit AND never > win are idiots. Now, I *like* your story....."getting rid of a cad". : In younger days, this happened to me. No threat of injury to the cat but : "I'll just drop him off somewhere". So one day after a vet visit it was [quoted text clipped - 27 lines] : never : > win are idiots. >In younger days, this happened to me. No threat of injury to the cat but >"I'll just drop him off somewhere". So one day after a vet visit it was >"Well he's in the carrier. We could just.." So to a local stables we went. >Himself had a long walk to his car, bout 7 miles, still at my house. >Chiya and I had tune and crab snacks and a smirk when the car started. I >always thought of it as "getting rid if a cad". ROTFL I like the way you think ;-) Of course you needed to keep your cool when he made the demand - don't know if I could have held it together long enough. Like several others have already posted, someone who would make such a demand around here wouldn't be around very long. Although I've always had the reputation of being pretty laid back, I have a pretty bad temper, and one of the things which would cause me to lose it completely is someone threatening to harm one of the crew here. So I'm afraid that my reaction to the original poster's FIL threatening any animal with a mallet would have ended with a police cruiser or two showing up - whether it was one of mine or just a stray that I saw threatened. SignatureSteve Touchstone, faithful servant of Sammy, Little Bit and Rocky stouchst@JUNKsirinet.net [remove Junk for email] http://www.sirinet.net/~stouchst/index.html > In younger days, this happened to me. No threat of injury to the cat but > "I'll just drop him off somewhere". So one day after a vet visit it was > "Well he's in the carrier. We could just.." So to a local stables we went. > Himself had a long walk to his car, bout 7 miles, still at my house. > Chiya and I had tune and crab snacks and a smirk when the car started. I > always thought of it as "getting rid if a cad". That's a great story :D Thanks for sharing. >In younger days, this happened to me. No threat of injury to the cat but >"I'll just drop him off somewhere". So one day after a vet visit it was [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > I >always thought of it as "getting rid if a cad". Good on ya! Suz Iron Chef Macmoosette Thank Heavens There's Only One =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= Chocolate heals all wounds. >>In younger days, this happened to me. No threat of injury to the cat but >>"I'll just drop him off somewhere". So one day after a vet visit it was [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > >Good on ya! This sounds like something out of a British sitcom. :) But I wonder if it was a good idea to drop him off in the middle of nowhere, instead of at a no-kill shelter? He might still be living out in the countryside today as a feral boyfriend. > >>In younger days, this happened to me. No threat of injury to the cat but > >>"I'll just drop him off somewhere". So one day after a vet visit it was [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > nowhere, instead of at a no-kill shelter? He might still be living > out in the countryside today as a feral boyfriend. *please* put a BW on this!!!! Yowie ROFL : > >>In younger days, this happened to me. No threat of injury to the cat : but [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] : : Yowie I like your idea better. Non-breeders can't effect the gene pool. > >>In younger days, this happened to me. No threat of injury to the cat but > >>"I'll just drop him off somewhere". So one day after a vet visit it was [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > nowhere, instead of at a no-kill shelter? He might still be living > out in the countryside today as a feral boyfriend. > This sounds like something out of a British sitcom. :) > > But I wonder if it was a good idea to drop him off in the middle of > nowhere, instead of at a no-kill shelter? He might still be living > out in the countryside today as a feral boyfriend. That's a good point, Tak. She should at least have had him neutered before releasing him. ;o) -- Marina > This sounds like something out of a British sitcom. :) > > But I wonder if it was a good idea to drop him off in the middle of > nowhere, instead of at a no-kill shelter? He might still be living > out in the countryside today as a feral boyfriend. hehehe.. i can just picture it, some guy, up in a tree, hair all mussed, clothes all ripped and dirty.... Kristy Signature(( /\ /\ )) /@ @\ (( \ _* _/<\\\\\\> / * \ / \ /\ / \ // / \ // | | | | | |/ # # # # > I need to vent about this & I knew other cat lovers would > understand.... [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > wouldn't have it any other way! I'm sorry...I just had to get this > off my chest. Purrs for you and litter box offerings for your Father In Law, I hope his new girlfriend comes to her senses. At least Patches got a new home. SignatureAdrian A House Is Not A Home, Without A Cat. > WHY would a woman choose a man over her companion of 4 years?!?!?!? Desperation? SignatureJette Goldie jette@blueyonder.co.uk Apache and Dakota http://www.jette.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/kitties.html >> WHY would a woman choose a man over her companion of 4 years?!?!?!? > Desperation? No one's that desperate; it has to be a case of not really valuing the cat. There *are* cases in which people have to find a new home for their cat - allergy, long-distance move under circumstances that don't allow for bringing the cat (eg poor student moving very cheaply), move to a nursing home or other facility that doesn't allow pets. I knew of a case not long ago where someone had their cat euthanized because she couldn't find a place to live that allowed cats. It turned out that she couldn't find a place to live that she liked that allowed cats - ie she didn't look into a lot of the private & basement apartments. It could be worse - some people in my neighbourhood simply left their kitten on the street when they moved out of the province. A friend who knew of the situation and knew I was thinking of getting a second cat put us together, and I adopted Betsy, at an age of about 6 months. I still don't know *why* they had a kitten when they must have known that they were going to move and leave her behind so soon! Cheryl What amazes me is that men like this seldom lack for a partner to share their insanity. Reminds me of an idiot friend I had who didn't feel loved if her guy didn't have fits of jealousy. Jo Signature"Dogs may have kept us company on the hunt, but it was the cats who insisted we invent houses and discover fire." -- Khiem Tran > I need to vent about this & I knew other cat lovers would understand.... > [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > Quitters never win, and winners never quit, but those who never quit AND never > win are idiots. |
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