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Grieving Cat

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fisho696969@gmail.com - 30 Jul 2007 12:45 GMT
Until a week ago I had two (ex) male Siamese cats, 15 years old.  They were born a day apart in the same cattery and have been
together for their entire lives.  They did everything together,  I have never seen a pair of cats so close.

Unfortunately, one had to be euthanized the other day.

The surviving cat is very distressed (as am I).  He went off his food and water and has spent his time looking for his friend.

I took him up to the vet, who gave him a steroid shot to try and get him eating again.  This has worked partially, but he may well
get depressed again.  The vet has suggested he may have to be euthanized if he doesn't recover.  I doubt I could handle that.

Anyway, I am thinking of getting a replacement cat to try and save him.

Is it worth trying this and should I look for a kitten or a more mature cat?
Noon Cat Nick - 30 Jul 2007 13:14 GMT
> Until a week ago I had two (ex) male Siamese cats, 15 years old.  They were born a day apart in the same cattery and have been
> together for their entire lives.  They did everything together,  I have never seen a pair of cats so close.
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> Is it worth trying this and should I look for a kitten or a more mature cat?

Don't introduce a new cat to the environment just yet. That's the common
wisdom, anyway, at least from what I've read. Wait a bit, then try
introducing a new feline into the household, once he seems to start
accepting the irrevocable absence of his friend. However, don't expect
that your pet will readily take to a new cat. He might become so used to
his only-cat status by that time that he'd be resentful and treat a new
cat as an intruder. But it's something to think about down the road,
maybe in a month or so.

Also, don't let a vet talk you into euthanizing your remaining cat. That
to me is just sheerly heartless. Your vet is letting his/her inoculation
needle do all the thinking.

Cats will mourn the loss of any household companion for up to six
months. Although in cats, it's not properly mourning; as hunters, cats
understand death and so don't grieve. The more accurate term is
abandonment depression. Your cat's years-long companion is suddenly
missing, and he's doing exactly what cats do in this situation. I've
seen it in my own cats over the years.

Right now, your poor guy needs special attention. Don't force it on him,
though. Just give him a little extra affection from time to
time--treats, a new toy, some extra petting and cuddling. This would
also be a good thing for you as well, since you're in a state of grief
and need whatever comfort you can get from your remaining beloved Siamese.

But for now, he's doing what a cat does when it's suffering from
abandonment depression. If it goes on for too long, you might ask your
vet for an anti-anxiety med for him.

More good info is available at http://www.messybeast.com/cat-grief.htm.

HTH.
 
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